Update on fling w/husband's friend
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Update on fling w/husband's friend
| Wed, 11-03-2004 - 8:41am |
I last posted 2 weeks ago and man can a lot happen in 2 weeks. I really listened to everything everyone had to say. I don't think I made it clear that the fling happened before OM and hubby became close friends. Well any way, OM and I had a really long discussion (more of me venting and him talking) He cares about me and my husband and our kids and my marriage and does not want to be the cause of our problems. I told him that he was not the cause because if my marriage was good nothing would've happened between him & I. I am trying really hard to work on my marriage but it's hard. I feel like as soon as a let my walls down with hubby he does something to make them go back up 10 fold.
But I wanted to let you all know that I have come to a realization that OM was not what I was looking for or even wanted- I wanted exceptance and a friend- which is what I have now! OM is still a part of our lives but I'm ok with it. We're friends that made a terrible mistake and just want to put it behind us. I know a lot of you won't agree with that but to each his own. :-) It may not last, I may not be able to handle it after a while but for now things are going pretty good.
Thank you all!
But I wanted to let you all know that I have come to a realization that OM was not what I was looking for or even wanted- I wanted exceptance and a friend- which is what I have now! OM is still a part of our lives but I'm ok with it. We're friends that made a terrible mistake and just want to put it behind us. I know a lot of you won't agree with that but to each his own. :-) It may not last, I may not be able to handle it after a while but for now things are going pretty good.
Thank you all!

I too fell into an A when all I really wanted was a friend.
So you're going to try and be friends with XOM? Thats your choice. That is what I decided to do when I ended this A. Unfortunatley it hasn't worked out too well but I think it'll be ok again one day.
It's intresting to know that we dont all consider our XOM as monsters! I know I dont. I'm just as much a guilty party as he is.
Best of luck to you.
m x.
Good luck with that,
Susie
I don't expect the friendship thing to work but I wish you luck with it.
Free
Chris,
Does your husband know of your friendship?
"WHEN FRIENDSHIP CROSSES THE LINE
Has your friendship become an emotional affair?
1. Do you confide more to your friend than to your partner about how your day went?
2. Do you discuss negative feelings or intimate details about your marriage with your friend but not with your partner?
3. Are you open with your partner about the extent of your involvement with your friend?
4. Would you feel comfortable if your partner heard your conversation with your friend?
5. Would you feel comfortable if your partner saw a videotape of your meetings?
6. Are you aware of sexual tensions in this friendship?
7. Do you and your friend touch differently when you’re alone than in front of others?
8. Are you in love with your friend?"
Wishing you strength & peace,
Posie