update...seeing him saturday

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Registered: 07-30-2004
update...seeing him saturday
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Thu, 03-10-2005 - 9:42am

well, if you are following my story the last time OM and i saw each other was about 2 weeks ago. i convinced him to meet with me and he did. we did not have ic except for touching and i went down on him. it ended well. i asked him again that i wanted him and i to communicate by email atleast once a month but that i dont think will happen.

we are social friends and i will be seeing him on saturday. i dont know how it will be. i hope he is not mad with me and that we could at least be social friends.

i have gotten a lot better. i know things are over i know he does not want any part of me. even though i sometimes text him to say hi he replies sometimes and sometimes he doesnt.

i really care about him a lot as a friend and wish we could atleast text once in a while but i know he does not want this.

it has been very difficult for me, but i am slowly getting over it. i have learned this A was the worst thing in my life. iwish it would have never happened although i miss soo much the high i got from it and the way the sex made me feel.

things with my H are just there. i have not been able to get back any loving feelings. i pretend to be happy but i know i am not. i hope one day i will be happy again. i have taken up more the shopping to satisfy myself and be happy.

well i dont know what will happen saturday..ill let you know

thanks for listening

upsidedown

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Registered: 12-02-2004
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 12:10pm
upsidedown4him,
Are you gonna give him another bj? What are you doing??????? Why do you need to be friends with this guy? I know it is hard to just let go of something you are so used to, but crap, make new friends with some chicks and stop being his blow j*b buddy!!!
Sorry to sound mean, but you deserve more than being used like that. Seriously!
~nuttmeg
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Registered: 02-03-2005
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 12:59pm

Hon,

The best way, in fact the ONLY way that things are really going to start getting better for you is to stop the contact, especially sexual contact. Believe me, I know how hard it is to give that up, but it must be done in order to truly move on with your life. The next time you get the urge, ask yourself if being a piece of ass is what you really want to be.

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Registered: 07-30-2004
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 3:28pm

no...i am not going for another BJ. we are seeing each other on a social basis at a party.

upsidedown

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Registered: 11-08-2004
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 7:05pm

Up

I have been foll0wign your story. I know this has been hard for you. I understand you are nervous about seeing MM socially. Will your H be there as well? Try to focus on him ok. It is only one night. Dont put your energies into MM and hold you head up high!

Good luck

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Registered: 02-10-2005
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 11:13pm
i'm sorry, i just came onto this board so i'm prob. jumping into something that i don't have the full story on but with that said...from this post it seems that you're fulfilling what he wants sexually but is he giving you anything back emotionally?? it sounds like that's what you're looking for but for him to let you give him a bj and answer your text msg's whenever he wants then he's in control of this. you need to take control of your feelings and give them to someone who can reciprocate. again, new to this board but i've so been there and done that and it just seems where your post was going. if not then i apologize.
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Registered: 03-13-2004
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 11:34pm

UP,

this is Max, im gonna put on your MM cap, i would love to get a BJ from u if u only want some sweet words and a couple of text mgs and a call on the cell, not wonder i keep stringing u along

ok cap off, MM just want u for sex and a cheap thrill, im so sorry UP but it is what i can conclude from your post, ok being it that u are going with your H, give your H the BJ instead at the party, that is hot, just sex, not love with your H but its a start and it will drive MM crazy if he ever finds out, give him a taste of his own medicine

ok , asbestos suit on, flame on

max

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Registered: 12-05-2004
Sun, 03-13-2005 - 6:32pm

warning: never ever...inhale on a cigarette and read a post when Max has his asbestos suit on in addition to his mojo fired up omg roflmaooooooooooo...and choking lol...

that was so great Max....about the bj for H, being hot lol...and then flame on lol....

You might have been totally serious (and yes what you said is true) ...but i saw a glint in your eyes (i hope). Just loved the flavor of your words as i took it.

i love seeing things through a guy's eyes especially when he is feeling strong and in a lil good mood lol...
GREAT JOB MAX! I think i scarred a lung lol...:hugs:its nice to laugh out loud lol...
Lizzie

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Registered: 03-13-2004
Sun, 03-13-2005 - 6:46pm

lizzie,

i meant to draw some smiles from my post, its been so much pain in this board that i thought a mischief post will make someone smile, i hope i did not offend anyone

but for real, we as men are very tactile and we love to see things before we feel them hence my suggestion

hehehe, a man will response for sure to touch, i dont care if he is emotionally detached or not from his woman

i guess asbestos is now illegal so im just wearing cotton, i should burn quickly

max

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Registered: 03-13-2004
Sun, 03-13-2005 - 6:51pm

Up,

did u see OM yesterday ??

inquiring minds want to know

hope u are feeling well today

max

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Registered: 07-30-2004
Thu, 03-24-2005 - 9:42am

max,

thanks for your reply and for follwoing up. i have been following your story and it sounds like you have been able to stay strong and put her behind you.

i didnt see him at the party that day. i saw his new wife which is in our circle of friends and we talked.

i have had a hard time getting over the A. i think its because i am not happy with Dh so i look for OM for a little piece of happiness.

DH is a great person and father..i just lost my feelings for him. i have tried to rebuilt and i just have not found it. i stay for the kids i dont want to hurt.

with regards to OM, we started as friends and we are still social friends. i grew to care about him and a part of me does not want him to forget me. i wish he would would but he doesnt unless i text.

how did you stay stong? any words of wisdom?

thanks