Upsidedownforhim How are you?

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Registered: 09-16-2004
Upsidedownforhim How are you?
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Tue, 11-16-2004 - 4:36pm

Hi Ups,

Just wanted to check in on you and see how you are doing? I hope you are doing ok. Please post and let me know how you are.

Ladybug

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Registered: 07-30-2004
Thu, 11-18-2004 - 9:58am

hey there ladybug. how are you doing?

well things with me are not going well.

the wedding is this saturday. i want the day to pass already

things with dh are not going well either. he left for about 4 days then came back and he told me this morning he was leaving again.

ladybug, it so weird that i just dont feel anything when i am with him. i know when i snap ot of this one day i will regret what i am doing. but it is so hard now. i cant pretend to love him when i am still trying to get over the hurt of the om.

om really hurt me. i didnt think i had fallen for him but i did. i really grew to care for him and i gave so much to that relationship. only to find at the end he really didnt care. what hurt the most was to hear he didnt care about what we did since i had not been with anyone else.

ladybug, i am sooo hurt. i dont know what i want in life. i am really down and depressed.

how are things going with you? i know your marriage stayed strong how did you do it? how were you able to forget om and work on the marriage?

thanks for asking about me. hope to hear from you

upsidedown

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Registered: 09-16-2004
Thu, 11-18-2004 - 4:37pm

Sometimes separation between Husband and Wife help clarify alot of emotions. No marriage is perfect, There are alot of struggles to keeping a relationship together. This is your time to reflect on how you feel about your current situation. Be strong whatever the outcome maybe. You need to find that happy medium. As far as OM hopefully he will soon be a part of your past and you can look back and tell yourself he was so not worth it. I know its not easy, but time heals all wounds.

My relationship with hubby is good not perfect but good, I have not by any means forgotten OM, trust me he is a very BIG part of my life even though its over. I still struggle every day to try to move on. I just emphasize more on my husband and family than him and thats what helps me get thru this icky mess I created. I beleive that someday this will all be just my past and there will be no more hurt, for now I take it day to day, because I know I m the one that caused this and now I have to fix it. I love my husband and that also makes a difference in how I have been able to move a little forward.

Good luck stay strong, I will say lots of prayers for you hun. Here when you need me.

Hugs
Ladybug