Vacation over. Now what?
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Vacation over. Now what?
| Mon, 07-12-2004 - 1:10pm |
Well, my MM got home yesterday at noon. Called me at 12:04 and about 22 phone calls up until 7:30. Said he told his W that when he gets back, he wants a divorce. Now what do I do? Is that crap? I want it to end... the lying and deceit, but if he is leaving, I don't really want to jump ship before I should. Am I nuts?

What do you do?
Well, that depends on what you want from your life.
If you want to be a part-time, on call, relationship with a fence-sitter, then continue as you are. MM will come up with some more "reasons" why he hasn't ended his marriage.
OR
You can opt for a life that is above board and with a person who is available to you for a full time relationship. MM already knows what he needs to do to have a full time relationship with you. And he hasn't chosen that path. He doesn't have the drive or determination to face up to his failures. instead he's been using a relationship with you as a crutch to limp along with his wife......
Anyone who really wants to be with his OW will take ALL steps necessary to make it happen.
Yes, it IS that simply stated.
I did it myself.
After being a fence-sitter afraid of the post-divorce life.
Life moves on. No matter whether you're with a fence-sitter or on your own.
You already know you want a whole relationship. SO follow your path.
End the affair and the lies and the hiding and come out into the light of day. MM can follow you if he really wants a different life.
All he has to do is act on his choice...............
You did, now it's his turn.
No threats or ultimatums. Just forward movement into the light of day.........
This sounds like indifference, or at least your approaching indifference, that really is the end.