very bad time please help!!
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very bad time please help!!
| Mon, 03-28-2005 - 9:55pm |
hi,
free, max need advice, if you have been following my posts, i have beem invovled with a married man for a year now. i am married but not happy, well mm has been seperated from his wife this last time for 2 months. well everything is fine when sees gone he calls alot wants to see me etc. well whenever shes is back, he barely gives me the time of day etc. calls when he has a minute, can fit me in when he has a minute. he tells me that he loves me , and that he only stays with his wife because of the kids (i no crap!!!) anyhow
when she came back i didn't hear from him in aweek, and when he did call i said wear have you been? he said busy working, i said you can't take sometime out to callme etc. he is always full of excuses, i knew something was up, he goes from calling just abouteveryday to not calling for a while then i asked is your wife home? he said yes, i said you do this to me all the time!!! he new i was upset he said he would call that night, well he didn't he didn't call until 4 days later, i said whats going on nothing he wanted to se me then i said i can't i have to do stofe etc. i said my husband is going out of town for easter, do you want to come over eastr night after all your festivities, he said yes i said are you sure, i wanted stofe to be special you no candles etc. he said between 7:oo and 8:oo well the as***** never called or showed up!!! ehe didn't even call me today to say sorry anything, if he loved me he new i was alone sun. mon. he would have come to see me, he has done this two me 3 times already he never wants to come over etc. i am really hurt, but more so i hate him right now and have lost feelings for him, weel sorry this is so long, my question is i am going crazy looking at my cell phone wondering when he is going to call! if ever, do you think i should just go and change my number, so i can go on with my life,but then some part of me says if i do that i will never no if he tried to call( in no why should it matter, but i guess i finally want to be the one to end it and tell him to go to h***!! what would you do any advice please
thanks candy
free, max need advice, if you have been following my posts, i have beem invovled with a married man for a year now. i am married but not happy, well mm has been seperated from his wife this last time for 2 months. well everything is fine when sees gone he calls alot wants to see me etc. well whenever shes is back, he barely gives me the time of day etc. calls when he has a minute, can fit me in when he has a minute. he tells me that he loves me , and that he only stays with his wife because of the kids (i no crap!!!) anyhow
when she came back i didn't hear from him in aweek, and when he did call i said wear have you been? he said busy working, i said you can't take sometime out to callme etc. he is always full of excuses, i knew something was up, he goes from calling just abouteveryday to not calling for a while then i asked is your wife home? he said yes, i said you do this to me all the time!!! he new i was upset he said he would call that night, well he didn't he didn't call until 4 days later, i said whats going on nothing he wanted to se me then i said i can't i have to do stofe etc. i said my husband is going out of town for easter, do you want to come over eastr night after all your festivities, he said yes i said are you sure, i wanted stofe to be special you no candles etc. he said between 7:oo and 8:oo well the as***** never called or showed up!!! ehe didn't even call me today to say sorry anything, if he loved me he new i was alone sun. mon. he would have come to see me, he has done this two me 3 times already he never wants to come over etc. i am really hurt, but more so i hate him right now and have lost feelings for him, weel sorry this is so long, my question is i am going crazy looking at my cell phone wondering when he is going to call! if ever, do you think i should just go and change my number, so i can go on with my life,but then some part of me says if i do that i will never no if he tried to call( in no why should it matter, but i guess i finally want to be the one to end it and tell him to go to h***!! what would you do any advice please
thanks candy

im sorry u have to go thru this, i know it hard and it sucks big time
clearly MM is busy with his W, and u are out of the pic, is he is interested in u then he would not let hiw W come back, he would have filed a divorce by now and be with u, the "kids" excuse is just a vanilla excuse, standard, we all hear that excuse doesnt matter is coming from MM/OM or MW/OW
MM is addicting, your life is all the decision u make, its all up to u now, u have the facts in front of u, u know he wont be with u
i hope u can find strength in the decision u are about to make, the conviction to stay with it, i know it tough but it can be done
take care,
max
down but not out
So do it, tell him. Make up your mind. It is up to you to decide that you are done and then stick to it. It doesn't mean you don't care anymore or that you don't want some other ending, but this is where you are. Unless this is what you want, you have to change the scenerio. He is choosing his wife, it is usually the easiest choice. He chose her before he even knew you.
I kept hanging on, in fact during the 2 yrs this went on I let him call all the shots. I did so much for him. Even now I don't think he really appreciated it. I never thought about it much at the time but now I can see so clearly that his W was a good one and did everything for him. In fact I only talked to her once or twice but she told me he had her at home and me at work. My pride kept me from ending this long before I should have. I kept wanting him to do something for me to somehow make it up. I finally realized there is nothing he could do, I am the only person who can make this better.
Candy
>>>"well mm has been seperated from his wife this last time for 2 months. well everything is fine when sees gone he calls alot wants to see me etc. well whenever shes is back, he barely gives me the time of day etc. calls when he has a minute, can fit me in when he has a minute. "<<<
He is seperated from his wife ARE YOU SURE he is not acting like a seperated man, anywho he is telling you who is who in his life and that is his WIFE and kids NOT YOU, change the number and move on your life is going to keep going around and round in circles as long as you let him drive.
Free