Very :( - talked to him. Starting over...
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Very :( - talked to him. Starting over...
| Sat, 01-22-2011 - 9:42am |
I'll go with the short version of how I messed up and have to reset LC.
I woke up having an emotional day yesterday... missing him, not feeling

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K-
He doesn't plan to leaver her and likely never will. If he wanted to be with you, he would have left a long time ago. His "love" for you and what it would take to be with you would have over-ridden any fears he had about leaving his M. But you see, he is a coward, like so many APs are. He wants you so that you can continue to stroke his ego in private and he wants his M so that he can show the world what a great family man he is. Cowardly cake eater. That's all he is.
Take a real good look at him and ask yourself if you don't deserve and desire so much better: He's a coward, a cheat and a liar. Plain and simple. Doesn't make him a bad person, just like none of us are bad people. It just means he has character flaws that are HIS to fix. It is not your responsibility to fix them, nor is it in your best intrest to overlook them. Just
What Alwayst said. No need to reiterate. Read my signature line and memorize it.
((Hugs))
K- Sorry to hear all that went on. Throughout your post, you imply that its his choices that are leading to the end of the A.
Great post. I am "Luvin" the way you have been stepping up.
((Hugs))
K,
It just plain sucks having to work with XAP.
Konline,
I am Pretty far out of my A, yet thru ur words I am reminded of the pain. Horrid pain.
Why is it up to him and what he does? What about u? When are u going to stand up for you? Who is if you are not? I know u are still in the fog and raw and all. I am just trying to get thru to you. I have tried all types of ways to get thru...along with the board, u take it, u take it and it's like you hear me but ya ain't really listenting.
I am trying to stop you from taking the long not so pleasant scenic route. This is already going to be one of the most difficult things u will ever do.
If u want a chance at this you gotta do more than just tell him.
Think of your daughter, think of the women that you want her to be, think of the years u will never get back with her, all that u invested in him, shoulda been invested in her. I have a daughter. You think she is oblivious....she is a child and deserves all of you. She is the only person you owe anything to, outside of yourself. Might since it's too difficult for u to see that, I gotta come at you on behalf of that little girl I am sure senses your pain. Mine sure did. U can't hide this stuff....it seeps out of your skin no matter how much you paint that smile on.
I will support u but you YOU gotta start putting in the work. From you post...ALL has been said and we shall not hear another thing about breaking any contact further. LC needs to be in FULL effect. N know that we will know what and if you are following the rules...better yet, YOU will know. N more words are meant to be temporary words n thoughts of inspiration. They are to linger on your head, along with the words of others on this board...chant it if u have to....this ain't easy but it is doable!!
Now get to gettin!
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
OMG... I'm posting all in one place again (is that ok,by the way?) because I just had kind of a breakthrough that you guys ignited.
I was reading your responses and crying... especially yours, Lovin... hitting the nail on the head with DD.
"I've questioned for a long time not wanting to be with him at all (even after he were to move out because I'd seen all the negative parts of him).
Thank you thank you thank you!
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