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|Wed, 03-26-2003 - 10:04am|
So just a few words out there to the ladies who are still toying with a MM/OM and that is to allow yourself to take a step back and REALLY SEE the character of the person you've gotten yourself involved in. It won't happen until you STOP THE EMOTIONAL TRAIN and find some clarity in your situation.
My opinion is this. Anyone and I mean ANYONE who is married and participating in an affair has issues that they are choosing to ignore...those issues may relate to their marriage or even their own character. But the fact is that it is easier to act as if those issues don't exist and get caught up in what feels good. My advice to everyone today is to not allow youself to be used to make someone else feel better about themselves. That is their job! I told my friend that until he gets a grasp on the fact that this lady with all her good points has also lied to her DH, he isn't even going to begin to see what needs to be done in order to restore peace into his life. If you ladies have such a low opinion of yourself that this MM/OM is the only person in the world who is capable of making you happy, then you need to go out and live a little!
I don't mean for this post to come off sounding uncaring, not at all. But to attempt to hold onto a love that should not be, one that began on the wrong footing, one that is not going to end in a real future together is like saying your life doesn't matter because be assured that when they are away from you, they are living their lives to the fullest! I'm angry today that there are so many people in the world who care more about getting their own needs met than what is right and wrong. This is in no way judging because I have certainly been there, but I can also say I am not in that place anymore and I never want to go there again!
I wish you all a really great day. It is beautiful here and I intend to enjoy it!