Wanting to end it....but how??
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| Thu, 07-29-2004 - 11:37am |
Anyway, we have tried to quit several times before and it has just killed both us to not talk to each other, and because of our situation and the fact that we see each other everyday does not help. He is the best friend, lover, and all-around guy that I have ever known. He says he is not "in love" with W anymore, just that they have so much debt together that he feels responsible for...he says he is "in love" with me and wants to be with me. But I was trying to give him some time, but now I don't think I can anymore. It hurts too bad to know what is going on in his life and not be able to do anything with him.
How did you all finally draw the line?
Is there anyone that actually left to be with MM etc that it isn't as great as it was?
How do you stop loving the person? I can stop the physical and contact, but I will always love him I feel, and that drives me crazy!!!

and he did and does love me-- but life is not so simple and it just wasn't going to work. I got tired and worn out from all of it. Though i was sad to end it, and walk away--i felt a huge weight lift off my shoulders.
There is no easy way off the ride, the one thing that gets you off in time is when the pain gets greater then the pay off for staying in it, when that happens you will force yourself out of the affair.
A few FACTS for you, 1)Very few of the cheating married men ever leave there wives, the standard reasons given is , MONEY, THE KIDS ETC... more often then not it is B/S.
2)OVER 95 PERCENT OF AFFAIR BASED RELATIONSHIPS FAIL IN THE FIRST YEAR, that number goes up to 97 percent over the long term, so is it going to work out if you were to run away together , not likely.
3) the age difference that seems minor now will be one of the most difficult things to overcome if you were to get together and as you both age it will become a bigger issue.
You want to end it Good for you Girl, the above is some truth and I here it can help set you free.
Good luck
F