That was unexpected
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|Mon, 05-12-2014 - 11:14am|
I guess this is the best place to post, although I don't know if a ONS counts as an A, or if me being separated at the time makes it infidelity, but I feel like I need someone's perspective.
I have been flirting with someone for a few months. My M was falling apart, and it was a nice distraction while that was going on. The OM was very careful not to get involved with a MW, so he would flirt, but go no further. The day I filed papers to make my separation legal, he jumped on his chance. But the whole act of sex with him was really strange and confusing. He seemed to want it and not at the same time. He kept going soft, and he seemed like he thought he was doing me some huge favor. It was a lot of work, and I got very little out of it. Which I know is not my fault because I am experimental and bendy. ;-) Anyway, I was trying not to judge him too harshly. It isn't like I'm some heartless woman who doesn't understand that that sort of thing happens sometimes. But then, once it was over, it was like I couldn't leave fast enough. Not a hug or kiss or see you later or anything at all.
So...I was thinking, maybe he was embarassed? So I went to see him last night to make sure we were cool and he didn't have regrets, and he kept making comments like he thought I was coming back for more and totally obsessed with him. He wouldn't come near me. He told me I was drunk (I wasn't) and needed to go home. And that he needed sleep.
Clearly I am totally done with this guy. I don't need to be treated like that. But...ouch. It was pretty harsh. Was it guilt? Embarassment? Disgust? Why would he treat me like that?