The Wave

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Registered: 10-09-2012
The Wave
Sun, 11-25-2012 - 4:35pm

I have just had a great weekend away with my girlfriends, didnt think too much about xAP and honestly thought I was making some real progress, woke up this morning and all i can do is cry, I feel sick, i miss him so much today....what is wrong with me?

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Registered: 04-01-2011
In reply to: Tily6
Mon, 11-26-2012 - 12:07pm
Hugs Take each day as Ot comes and know that how you are feeling is perfectly fine and normal on whatever day. Progress is not always linear - in fact rarely so so just allow yourself permission to feel exactly how you do. Wherever you are today is ok honey. Let us know how you are doing. Much love Yellow x

"Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves." ~Henry David Thoreau~

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Registered: 11-26-2009
In reply to: Tily6
Mon, 11-26-2012 - 3:43am
Hi Tily You have had a great time, that helped you take your mind off xAP - exactly what you needed. But remember, its a long process getting over someone you loved - and its going to take time. Its perfectly normal, now that you are left to your own devices again to start mourning again. Enjoy the small moments where you are feeling like your normal self - in time these moments last longer, and the sorrow starts to fill less. You need to feel what you are feeling to get through this. Pushing it to one side wont get rid of it - it will come back to haunt you. Hang in there - your perfectly normal sweetie :-) WGO
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Registered: 11-04-2012
In reply to: Tily6
Sun, 11-25-2012 - 5:31pm


There's nothing wrong with you. You are going through the grieving process...perfectly normal.  

Whether the relationship was appropriate or not, it is still a loss.  You're going to have your good days and bad days.  The further out you get the good days will begin to outweigh the bad. 

I'm glad you had great weekend away with your girlfriends.  It's always best to surround yourself with those who really love you...not some one who would have you jeopardizing your relationship with your loved ones.

Hang in there, Tily.  You're going to be alright.  You just got to go with it, but try not to let it ruin your entire day.  Let yourself feel your some crying...then wipe away those tears and get on with your day as best you can.



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