This is way past ridiculous!!
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| Wed, 12-01-2004 - 11:14am |
I was doing so well...and then yesterday he didn't show up for work, and one of my coworkers said he had gone to the hospital. We didn't hear anything until later in the day, when the uncle of the girl I saw him with at the parade told me that he was home resting, waiting for test results. (Wonder how the uncle found out? No great mystery there, I guess.) So last night, like a big idiot, out of concern, I called to ask how he was doing. (we were supposed to be friends at least, right?) He didn't pick up his phone, didn't return my call. I'm assuming he was incapacitated. Or else she was there and he didn't want to call me back. Or else he thinks I'm a big idiot for continuing to show concern for his well-being. Turns out he hurt his back. I'm afraid to ask how.
MEANWHILE, I've noticed sudden distance from the male co-worker who has been such a good friend (nothing else, believe me...he's "in the closet," if you know what I mean). I find out this morning that xOM told him that it's obvious I AM PURSUING HIM (the friend, that is)!!!!! By the way, xOM also made a catty remark to me during the parade that he thinks the friend is interested in me, to which I told him to stop it. That is so mean! In a strange way, it shows he is jealous (he used to make jealous comments about my friendship with this guy, about me wanting to "convert" him, when we were together). I am so mad right now, I want to wring his neck! If I had known that, believe me, I wouldn't have called to check on him...I would have gone over there to make sure he felt bad! Now, my friend feels awkward toward me, and I have been trying to find a moment to pull him aside and say, "Whatever (xOM) has said to you, you know I think of you as a good friend, and that's all." How dare he make me out to be some lunatic, chasing men in the office like some tv news groupie. I could spit nails. I have to go out and smile real big in about 45 minutes, so I'm trying to get my anger out here. I noticed when my friend and I were working on a project last week in an editing booth, I looked up and saw xOM looking through the window. He jumped back and walked away when I caught him looking. This is insane. I have got to go to another station far away before this man drives me to a life of crime...starting with assault!!!!! I am so mad!!!!!

Gal
Make up with your buddy by telling him the truth and see XMM for the real jerk he clearly is.
Now stop spending your time and emotional energy on that over grown immature child and invest it were it will do you some good in your marriage and husband.
Everything you put into dealing with X MARRIED MAN is stealing from your real life relationship your marriage.
Have you considered that XMM is the reason XMM is divorced.
JMHO
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