48, college educated. 3 grown kids. 2 grandkids. Own 5 bedroom home complete w/3 awesome dogs. Attend church with all of my kids their spouses and kids, regularly. Own my own business. Very hard-working, devoted and loving husband. Someone who made a HUGE mistake and will never, ever do that again. I GET A SECOND CHANCE!!!!!!!
I am 35 years old - with three amazing children (12, 9, 4). I am in school full time - just finishing my 3rd year of my PhD. I have worked for 12 years as a woman abuse counselor and specialize in the area of trauma and mothering. My own research is on pelvic teaching in medical schools, although I also am doing research with incarcerated women and on seniors mental health in long term care homes. I live in a beautiful old home and count my blessing every day that I do. I am a fierce feminist and my H (married 12 years) is also a counselor working with men who are charged with offenses against women and/or children. My H lives about a block away from us now - thanks to my (in)actions. I have a rich, small network of friends who know about the situation and continue to allow me to process at length this situation. If it wasn't for them, and this board, well - I simply wouldn't have made it this far.
30, M going on 8 years, no kids, 2 dogs, House, Graduate degree, just started a new career as Director of Development and Communications for a non-profit org, left career as executive editor of a publishing company. Do not attend church regularly and haven't for years.
I am 40, 2 wonderful daughters 12 and 8, amazing H who would give me the world if he could. I am University Educated and Teach High School. I live in a modest neighborhood in a 3 bedroom home, 2 vehicles, 1 dog, amazing family and an incredible circle of close friends. I was in my A for about 7 years, only one other person has ever known about this... I am on day 47 NC and am thankful every moment of the day I found this board!
I think the posters here run the entire gamut. I don't think you'll find any one common denominator other than we're all trying to better ourselves.
I DO love to talk about myself, so here I go: ;)
I'm 42. married twice. 3 daughters: 3, 4, and 13 (this one has special needs). I grew up middle class and since then I've been rich, poor, in the middle, and back again. Right now, I look loaded but I'm broke, broke, broke. Broker than I've been since college!! Yet, I make a good living; it's just that I have way too many commitments. The problem might be that I married for love - stoopid! ha. Girls, follow my daddy's advice "it's just as easy to fall in love with a rich man as it is a poor man." ahahahahaha. And for crying out loud, don't marry a musician. ;)
Okay Dee - you made me laugh and shake my head along with you ...
especially the 'I look loaded but I am broke'
Me too!
Last year we had our electricity cut off in the middle of a house party and I used some fancy tape to cover the big red tag on our electrical meter announcing it to the world! Thank goodness for BBQs and coolers.
M 20 years (2nd marriage), two grown sons from first M, 2 college degrees (3rd one in progress). H and I own a 3300sf home in a beautiful neighborhood, and I drive an SUV. I attended church regularly until I began my A and abruptly stopped because I felt too ashamed to face God. Still I kept it up for three years (talk about pathetic!). I find it incredible that despite our well-educated status we all fell into the A trap. Once again, it's good to know that I am not alone. Thank you for starting this post!
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I am 36, D'd, own 5 bedroom home, 2 kids, dog, too highly educated, still trying to REALLY figure out what i wanna be when i grow up.
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
I just turned 47!!!!
Hi,
I am 35 years old - with three amazing children (12, 9, 4). I am in school full time - just finishing my 3rd year of my PhD. I have worked for 12 years as a woman abuse counselor and specialize in the area of trauma and mothering. My own research is on pelvic teaching in medical schools, although I also am doing research with incarcerated women and on seniors mental health in long term care homes. I live in a beautiful old home and count my blessing every day that I do. I am a fierce feminist and my H (married 12 years) is also a counselor working with men who are charged with offenses against women and/or children. My H lives about a block away from us now - thanks to my (in)actions. I have a rich, small network of friends who know about the situation and continue to allow me to process at length this situation. If it wasn't for them, and this board, well - I simply wouldn't have made it this far.
Edited 4/17/2010 11:33 am ET by transcendingus
"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
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30, M going on 8 years, no kids, 2 dogs, House, Graduate degree, just started a new career as Director of Development and Communications for a non-profit org, left career as executive editor of a publishing company. Do not attend church regularly and haven't for years.
Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
I think the posters here run the entire gamut. I don't think you'll find any one common denominator other than we're all trying to better ourselves.
I DO love to talk about myself, so here I go: ;)
I'm 42. married twice. 3 daughters: 3, 4, and 13 (this one has special needs). I grew up middle class and since then I've been rich, poor, in the middle, and back again. Right now, I look loaded but I'm broke, broke, broke. Broker than I've been since college!! Yet, I make a good living; it's just that I have way too many commitments. The problem might be that I married for love - stoopid! ha. Girls, follow my daddy's advice "it's just as easy to fall in love with a rich man as it is a poor man." ahahahahaha. And for crying out loud, don't marry a musician. ;)
Okay Dee - you made me laugh and shake my head along with you ...
especially the 'I look loaded but I am broke'
Me too!
Last year we had our electricity cut off in the middle of a house party and I used some fancy tape to cover the big red tag on our electrical meter announcing it to the world! Thank goodness for BBQs and coolers.
"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
Transcendingus and Dee,
I grew up very poor as did my ex H, very very poor. Like WIC poor. Not dramatizing it, just if you even know what WIC is, then you know how poor.
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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