We are better than this!!!

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Registered: 10-30-2004
We are better than this!!!
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Thu, 12-02-2004 - 8:38pm
I was told by a friend who had a long long term A (18 yrs) that we are going to go through 4 stages. Denial, Hurt, Anger, and Indifference. First we are going to deny that our men didn't really love us as they said they did. The hurt is finally realizing that our relationship is over. Anger is when we realize how we were played for a fool to just be tossed aside like yesterdays garbage in the end. Then comes the indifference, we don't care if we ever hear or see them again and acually are glad they are gone. When she told me this I realized I was going through those exact stages. She said we will bounce back and forth. I bounce between the hurt and indifference. My anger stage was awful, I was out for revenge. I still love MM but that to die for love is not there anymore. I try to focus on all the wrong he did to me.I gave up my whole family believing his lies. That feeds my indifference.So all we can do at this point is try to pickup our lives and go foward. We have all been there and done that. I hope we all learned to accept the fact we were all used and let it go. I lost the respect of many people loving a man that in the end tossed it all away. He has ask me to give him time to get things in order (2 months). No way I will never take him back, I can never trust his lies again. And ladies if they loved us they would be with us plain and simple. My slogan is WE'RE BETTER THAN THIS!!!!!
Learn from yesterday, Live for today, Hope for tomorrow.
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Registered: 12-28-2003
Thu, 12-02-2004 - 9:25pm

Peach

You have come a long long way Sis, keep on trucking.

Nice to here from you again.

Free

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Registered: 10-05-2004
Thu, 12-02-2004 - 9:27pm

jrspeach -

Thanks for the inspirational words. I too, bounce back & forth, but am currently between Hurt & Anger. I look forward to the indifference stage :-)

Thanks again!!

Diva