We don't say "I told you so"

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Registered: 03-25-2003
We don't say "I told you so"
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Mon, 04-04-2005 - 6:16pm

Or a whole lot of other demeaning judgements......


No one can beat us up as well as we can beat ourselves up.....


So we come to this board and listen, share what we've learned, suggest things that have worked for us in the past, and hope for the best for all concerned.


Starting with ouselves. Being here is a great start for change...


We say to one another "I tried this and it worked for me". We build consensus on strategies that have rebuilt enjoyable lives. We share ourselves.


That's the point of this board as I see it......end a lifestyle built on a lie, learn why we made the choice to live that deceitful lifestyle, change our lives away from those reasons and live a life that is respectful of others as well as ourselves.


There are those who find it takes several attempts to end their affairs and others do it once cold turkey. Some of us build up our courage to reach a point of letting it ALL go, some of us pitch it out the window ASAP.


Whatever path you choose to end your affair, embrace your choice. Say it out loud to yourself. Own it. Make it happen.


And then step into your new life......


Face the challenges. Heal the hurts. Learn your limits and then expand them.


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Registered: 04-03-2003
Mon, 04-04-2005 - 7:31pm

Here, here! i second that.

No one is harder on me then the voices in my own head. i would never be so hard on any of my friends if they were going through this.

Thanks to all who balance out the times i beat myself up.

jen

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Registered: 12-28-2004
Tue, 04-05-2005 - 3:07pm

cl-nre

I have learned that no matter how I feel, this board always manages to lift me up in ways that I couldn't find. Many times, I have jumped from this board back to the A board, only to land back on this one....point...I felt as if I would come across like an extremely indecisive, weak individual? Quite the opposite, I would receive nothing more than incredibly positive reinforements and for that, I am very grateful for =)

I am my worst critic, I'm glad that it didn't keep me from posting here, everyone has been understanding and helpful.

{{{HUGS}}}

Doves