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but we were friends
| Thu, 02-17-2005 - 10:30am |
so i got a reply from someone and i went back to see if maybe what iw rote was misinterpreted somehow, and i realized that it is very hard for me to write down the entire scenerio of our relationship in this manner (it could take years) but yes i see how some may think that having my guy living with someone and me still being with him could be interpreted as he just wants me for sex, but the funny little thing about it is that we arent having sex now, and not that we havent in the past, but for about 3 months we havent because i decided we shouldnt until his situation is resolved and he respects me for that. Men as much as they are about sex and the challenge and the chase, blah blah blah, sometimes really do fall for someone because they truly love them and they're personality, not the sex. not that it wasnt amazing when it was there, but its not all we were about. and hopefully the stories that eveyone's heard from people here havent completely jaded your perception of men as loving, caring creatures. my guy is a very loving, caring man, but he is indeed in a situation, that although im frustrated about, is the result of not wanting to be alone.... i often attempt to put myself in his place and really try to feel what he feels and think what he thinks and understand the source of his fears, and the funny thing is.. i do. if it were me, i dont think i would be so capable of leaving. i dont think i would be able to drop my life as i know it for the unknown. we know we love each other, and we know how we are together, but will this all be the same when the dust clears?...it is also very difficult to stop all communication with my guy because i used to be friends and co-workers with him, and although ive since changed offices, he still works with my family and friends, and i do have to see him. so someone please tell me, how do u end something if you even wanted to, when it wont go away?
