Were you your true self?

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Registered: 08-24-2010
Were you your true self?
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Tue, 09-21-2010 - 10:22pm

Many times when reading on this board I hear people say that the "fog" is lifting. This has led me to my question..do you feel you were your true or authentic self in your A? For those of you that are married, I'd like to ask you (in addition) are you your true or authentic self in your M?

People sometimes describe an affair as a fantasy world. Do you view the "you" in the affair as the person you want to be or a person you don't even recognize as yourself?

I can honestly say that I believe I was the authentic me, even in my A. I get the sense though that many here feel differently. I also see it written many times (here on this board) that you don't miss the person but you miss the way they made you feel. I think about this a lot because one of my favorite quotes by Maya Angelou:

"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."

I truly believe this statement to be true. I guess I don't understand how saying you miss the way they made you feel is a way of getting over an A.

Sorry if this post became choppy but these were the things on my mind after reading so many posts on this board. Thanks for any input.

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Registered: 10-20-2009
Wed, 09-22-2010 - 2:22pm

Juliette,



WOW what a post!

BE the change that you want to see in the world! Life loves me and I love life! <3
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Registered: 08-25-2010
Wed, 09-22-2010 - 2:25pm

Wow - Juliette.



beautifully written.

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