what is the best way to end it?

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Registered: 04-15-2004
what is the best way to end it?
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Sat, 04-16-2005 - 11:11am

Is it best to:

(1)End the affair by having a discussion with the affair partner? I fear the risk of going this route is that I will start to become very emotional (i.e., start crying) and that I really won't get everything said in the right way. There can always be so much misinterpretation in this case.

(2)End the affair by simply "riding off into the sunset"? There is a point in time (at the end of May) when we won't be in constant contact, and I am thinking of just letting it go at that point. Enjoying our time together until then, but no discussion, per se, about ending it.

Thank you for any input.

Birdie

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Registered: 10-03-2004
Tue, 04-19-2005 - 8:13am

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No, not really. A couple of times, the issue of our past interludes came up, but I neatly side-stepped the issue. I did what people have been doing for centuries; changed the subject!

Now, we mostly talk about what's up in each other's lives...and that's mostly e-mail or by phone (rarely). I haven't seen him in person for awhile now. We'll meet for lunch every now and then (again, rarely).

Cherry

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Registered: 10-03-2004
Tue, 04-19-2005 - 8:27am

Thanks a lot Free.

I want to say this to you: I may not know you, but I have felt a lot of support form you. You have many great ideas on how to get through the end of an affair. There was a post you did a while back that detailed enrichments (success is the best revenge!) to concentrate on instead of OP. That inspired me to look into investments and I got a nice, big, fat return on one! THANK YOU FREE!

Also thanks to others on this board. You all been great with suggestions. I particularly like the alternate activies listed! Especially the pampering ones (pedicures, massages, shopping!)

Cherry

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