What do I make of this?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-23-2003
What do I make of this?
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Wed, 01-28-2004 - 7:32pm
OK, I know I said I find this whole affair thing boring already, but I still feel a bit jazzed when I hear from MM. So, he emails me about once a day now, telling me what is going on with some important work decisions (we don't work together, but he has always confided in me about work stuff, and he signs his emails "I miss you" and calls me "baby" like he always has. What do you make of that? Do you think he still is "in" this thing?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 01-28-2004 - 8:01pm

It sounds to me like he's still trying to pull your strings.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-2003
Wed, 01-28-2004 - 9:25pm
Yes.

Now the question becomes, "are you?"

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-23-2003
Wed, 01-28-2004 - 9:39pm
Well...yes, but I don't want to be. I need to wean myself.
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Registered: 09-05-2003
Wed, 01-28-2004 - 10:32pm
I went through that rollercoaster for most of my 3 year affair. I would "try" to end it but then be thrilled by his chasing me & end up back in the affair & miserable again. It was almost like I started running to get him to chase me. Gross.

I wish I could tell you what to do & how to not want this mess anymore, but you're going to have to find your own way.

I know you will -- the desire is there but the strength of will isn't yet. Good luck. I did the weaning thing. It took me about 6 mos. to be ready to walk away & never turn back.

I've never regretted it for a minute and now, a year free of the A, I am the happiest I've ever been in my life.

I hope you find your strength & happiness soon. It's not easy, but you'll find your own path.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-2003
Thu, 01-29-2004 - 11:27am
Weaning leads to tears & pain & confusion & lack of sleep & wishy-washyness & lack of self esteem...



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Registered: 11-18-2003
Thu, 01-29-2004 - 2:10pm
BAH, HA, HA...riverguy! That made me bust out laughing! Thanks...I needed that!

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ps...all the stuff you said about weaning...a resounding YES! that's what it exactly leads to!!!

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Registered: 12-23-2003
Thu, 01-29-2004 - 10:15pm
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