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what do you all think?
| Mon, 12-20-2004 - 4:42pm |
Do any of you still buy your Ex-OM/MM a Christmas present even though the affair is over? I still work with mine and we manage to maintain a decent relationship. Our relationship is mostly business, but we can talk on a personal level on occasion if needed. I would love to buy him a nice gift for Christmas but I want other peoples opinions. I know that he would like it because he loves presents. We both know there is no future for us, so is it okay to buy presents as friends? I want him to know that I will always care for him. This is just how I am. If I care for someone, I want them to know it. If something happened to him and I didn't tell him that I loved him, I would fall apart. So what about a nice present and a nice card? Any ideas?

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I think any kind of present would be misleading. I still work with mine too, but I'm not getting him anything. If I have a change of heart, it would be tickets to a basketball game, or something like that.
NOW, what I would really like to get him is a blowup doll that says," I have a headache" whenever he touches her, with my name tatooed on her chest ;)
Id
South
Is this the man your talking about, yes I am sure he has earned a gift !!
I am absolutely devastasted. I got the answers that I was looking for abour X-OM, but not from X-OM. I got my answers from doing my own checking up on him. I cannot believe the things that I have found out in the last 24 hours and it is all true. I had heard stories before about X-OM, but never wanted to believe any of it. I found out that he has more than one girlfriend. He has a girlfriend that he tells everyone is his "woman". Then he has another one that he uses strictly for sex. He is also sleeping with his 22 year old step daughter from his second wife. He is possibly the father of her baby. While all of this may be okay because he is single, it disgusts me to know that he is like this, especially the thing with his step daughter. He raised her for 10 years. How can he sleep with her? He also beat up his stepson a few years ago and went to jail. This is the man that I put on a pedestal. He was my prince Charming. I left my marriage for him. I am by no means and angel, but I have never done any of the stuff that he has done. The worst thing that I have done is the fence-sitting, even after I was divorced. Whats devastating is to think that he proclaimed his undying love for me and I have spent 6 years of my life pining for him. I have never lied to him about anything and apparently everything that he ever told me was a lie. I am glad that I found all of this out now. I am also fortunate that my exhusband still wants me. I have a second chance to make my marriage work. I don't know about all of that yet. I want to be fair to my exhusband. I have to get my head together first. i am glad that I am in therapy. I am going to need it. I am going to let X-OM know that I know some of his dark secrets, but I will not cause a scene or try to cause him trouble at work. I am not like that. I just want him to know that I realize now what he is all about.
Hey MeFree..... ((wink)))
Just wanted to clarify that you posted in error to me instead of southerngirl, just so people who know my story aren't thinking, "What?"
ID
"Wow, and here I thought I my Ex-Lover was a jerk. I think Southerngirl should slip her XOM her therapist's business card. Now that would be an appropriate gift."
How true, the man's a real GEM, you might say like many of these guys he is fools gold.
Free