What do you say to yourself?

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Registered: 04-01-2010
What do you say to yourself?
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Tue, 02-08-2011 - 4:17pm

There are quite a few Newbies here and some not-so-newbies who have shown some signs of struggling. There is so much hope here at EAS, otherwise we wouldn't be hanging around, would we? I know that in four months, I have learned so much about myself, about affairs, about my responsibility and role, and how to heal.

There are so many tools to find here to help one along in their journey. One of things I did/do a lot of when I was/am feeling down, is to repeat certain phrases that for some reason, really had an impact on my thinking.

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.

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Registered: 01-31-2011
Thu, 02-10-2011 - 1:16pm
Vanessa - I love that, too!!!

Always, YES, "I MUST have been out of my fracking mind!!!"
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Registered: 01-21-2009
Thu, 02-10-2011 - 2:22pm

Always,

Exellent idea! I say:

I can no longer do this to my W.

I cannot let this affect my work

I need to be true to MYSELF

What does not kill us, make us stronger.

It is a new day and a new life.

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Registered: 01-21-2009
Thu, 02-10-2011 - 2:27pm

Oh and one more thing:

My affair was a movie, full of actors and actresses. Therefore it couldn't have been real.

DM

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Registered: 08-11-2009
Thu, 02-10-2011 - 11:45pm

I have been holding myself together with a few mantras this week (as well as having a fantastic friend I can text to death when I am feeling weak!)

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Registered: 01-18-2010
Fri, 02-11-2011 - 5:45am
this is good stuff. you really are recognizing some insightful behaviors and things. I can relate to your post so much. I did exactly what you just described. when you do things all on your own, you have so much to be proud of. even if you mess up, it is like, you own it all, the good and the bad, and it teaches you, but it is yours. You are not emotionally dependent on another and you build your confidence back up.
Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Registered: 01-18-2010
Fri, 02-11-2011 - 5:46am
Amex,

I like this one....good stuff.
Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Registered: 04-01-2010
Fri, 02-11-2011 - 9:04am
amexdm wrote:

Oh and one more thing:

My affair was a movie, full of actors and actresses. Therefore it couldn't have been real.

DM

Good one, DM.

I used to remind myself frequently that xAP was merely a prop in my own dysfunctional play.

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
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Registered: 11-17-2006
Fri, 02-11-2011 - 9:32am

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