What happens to the others?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
What happens to the others?
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Fri, 04-18-2003 - 4:41pm
Ofcourse today I had another encounter with OM - no big deal, just pulling out of the street as he pulled in. I didn't really feel a lot. I didn't smile at him, basically I just thought - I'm not going to interact in any way with him. Plain and simple any contact/interaction with him is unhealthy for me. BUT I don't think I would be at this point if I wasn't here and if I hadn't gone to a therapist etc. The support I have received especially from this board has been invaluable.

What happens to the OM and OW who don't have this support. It must take them so much longer to get over their affairs. Do they just bottle it? For anyone here whose affair ended before they found this board - how did you manage without this support? I've always had this board - perhaps reading here is what prompted me to end it the very first time I can't remember, but I've been lucky. Had I not found this board I don't know how I could have dealt with all the bottled up emotion. Its not as though I could really talk to many friends about this. Only one of my friends knows and she is not too thrilled at all to talk about it.

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Registered: 04-07-2003
Fri, 04-18-2003 - 5:45pm
I didn't find this board till 2-3 weeks after everything ended. Never thought a support board existed for something like this till I got desperate enough to search for one. Man was I surprised to find one! I kinda wish I had found it a year and a half ago so I could've known what was going to come to me for beginning a relationship like that. What shocked me the most was reading SOME of the posts from the "My Affair" board. No offense to those who may have posted there in the past but it made me nauseated to read women's posts who were cyber-high-fiving each other for cheating on their husbands and/or for having a relationship with a married man.... its bad enough to be in such a relationship... but its disgusting to be PROUD of it. And I repeat... not ALL the posts were like that. But back to the question u asked... before I found this board I felt like I was the only one in the world going through this situation. I felt like I was going to explode because NO ONE knew about it while it was occurring. I confessed to my best friend what happened which helped a LOT, but it was great to find others who knew where I was coming from. And for the first month or so I could barely read other people's posts without crying never mind writing my own. Its just comforting to know I'm not alone. What a crazy freaky year its been. Thank God its over.