what is his problem?

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Registered: 12-27-2003
what is his problem?
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Sat, 03-27-2004 - 10:55am
things have been going well with my om -- yesterday we were getting along great- his girlfriend called while we were out - now we were pulled over to the side of the road he answered his phone - held a conversation in front of me and ended the conversation with "i love u too." now am i crazy or am i correct -- he could have very well gotten out of my car to speak with her - that was the first incidence. i bought him a car stereo and speakers yesterday because his stereo was shot and did not have a cd player. he did not get to thank me due to "people" being around both of us (no one knows we see each other) so around 11 pm he came over last night - after about 15 mins he says he's going home - i asked why - he replies with " because its time for me to go home." i then replied with " oh your welcome." he then asks me for what? for what ??? i told him when he figures it out to let me know. i then waited about 5 mins and called his cell - he answered with what do u want? he is so ignorant to me sometimes- i replied with " u didn't even thank me for the stereo - he says he did - and his phone is almost out of minutes he'll talk to me tommorrow or something and hangs up. the thing that bothers me the most is everytime we have sex when we are finished i tell him i love him - and he says nothing ! but yet he tells me he's in love with me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me and he just holds his feeling in and i express them more openly -- what do u guys think ? is he an a**hole or am i reading into this too much?
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Registered: 03-16-2004
Sat, 03-27-2004 - 11:39am
Um, no, I don't think you're reading too much into this. I think you are right on the mark.
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Registered: 12-28-2003
Sat, 03-27-2004 - 1:08pm


Ya you got it right ok, also useing you now for MONEY not just sex.

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Sat, 03-27-2004 - 2:38pm
this is a board for ending an affair...do you want to end this affair, because it sounds to me like you are still in it.

You ask what is his problem? What is YOUR problem. You are with a man that tells his girlfriend he loves her while you are sitting in the car with him. He doesn't thank you for a stereo. He answers the phone and says what do you want? I don't think he is the one with the problem, I think it is you. Have more respect for yourself then let this man treat you like dirt and move on. Dont you think you are worth more? I do, and i don't even know you.

Jazzdiva

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Sat, 03-27-2004 - 4:12pm
trisha~

Have to agree with the others here....as much as it might sting. The guy does not sound like he has much respect for you...and what kind of relationship is that? He sounds like a cakeman....ESP after saying "I love you, too" to the GF RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU. ouch!

dharma

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Registered: 04-05-2003
Sat, 03-27-2004 - 4:48pm
You ended your post with:

"is he an a**hole or am i reading into this too much?"

Honey, he is an A**HOLE! ! ! !

If you continue to allow him to treat you like a used

papertowel, you will REGRET it later.

Good luck!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 03-27-2004 - 11:35pm
I don't think he has a problem. I think you're the one with the problem for continuing to see someone who clearly doesn't care enough about you to be yours and yours alone. Kick him to the curb. You deserve to be with someone who is ALL yours and who doesn't string you along. End it as soon as you can. It's only going to get worse.