this is what i got after 15 years......

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Registered: 01-01-2008
this is what i got after 15 years......
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Tue, 02-02-2010 - 11:16am

"You haven't over estimated my friendship, you have over estimated

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Registered: 09-25-2006
Tue, 02-02-2010 - 11:49am

Affairs and expectations don't go together.

Onward and upward.
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Registered: 04-20-2009
Tue, 02-02-2010 - 12:05pm

Buddy, welcome to EAS. May it be to you what it's been to me - a lifesaver. 15 years!? omg. heartbreaking.

Sending lots, and I mean LOTS of positive thoughts your way today. I hope you'll stick around.

Best,
Dee

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Registered: 08-18-2008
Tue, 02-02-2010 - 12:07pm

Hi Buddy,


Seems like you were making someone a priority while they made you an option.


As hard as it was to read that email and as much as it hurt, it was true. His commitment is to his family.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Tue, 02-02-2010 - 1:00pm

Welcome to the board. I can't imagine what you are feeling right now, well not entirely anyway, but the basics are probably the same for any of us: hurt, anguish, shame, embarrassment, outright rage - the how could he after all i gave up, gave in, did for, did with, put up with?!

It really just sucks, doesn't it?

But life after an A ... well it is for me, blissful. I am just 15 days LC and I feel in control of my life once again. I feel worthy, attractive, and happy, truly happy for the first time in a loooog while.

Join us on this journey ... it's way less lonely when we travel together.

J.

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Tue, 02-02-2010 - 2:15pm

Welcome back, Buddie. I remember reading you in the Wisdom and Insights thread, so you have been struggling with this so called "Friendship" for a long time, honey. I really don't know what kind of advice we can offer you unless you are serious this time in ending your A. Will you let us help you? Are you ready to sever the cord for good this time?

((Hugs))

~ Iddy~

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 08-06-2007
Tue, 02-02-2010 - 3:35pm

Hi buddy


I can sooo relate to that email. Your (x)AP sounds like he has a rather high opinion of himself and his world. And he only wants you in it when it is convenient for him. His words sound so condescending to me as well.

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Registered: 03-03-2008
Tue, 02-02-2010 - 3:51pm

Hi Buddy-


iVillage Member
Registered: 01-01-2008
Tue, 02-02-2010 - 10:25pm
thank you energy2006,
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-01-2008
Tue, 02-02-2010 - 10:33pm
i hope and pray every day that this is the last time i will have to go through this painful ending.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-01-2008
Tue, 02-02-2010 - 10:39pm

"Your (x)AP sounds like he has a rather high opinion of himself and his world. And he only wants you in it when it is convenient for him. His words sound so condescending to me as well.

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