this is what i got after 15 years......

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-01-2008
this is what i got after 15 years......
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Tue, 02-02-2010 - 11:16am

"You haven't over estimated my friendship, you have over estimated

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Registered: 01-01-2008
Tue, 02-02-2010 - 10:44pm

dear never,


i remember you as well.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-06-2007
Tue, 02-02-2010 - 11:35pm

buddy,


I found the arrogance and tone spoken to me so disrespectful at times. After so much time in the relationship, perhaps your AP is now taking you for granted. Buddy, you can use the anger to help catapult you to finally ending the affair. You should defend yourself, after all don't you matter!! Don't feel guilty for doing the right thing and putting your life ahead of his.


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Registered: 01-01-2008
Wed, 02-03-2010 - 5:59am

taking me for granted would be putting it mildly.

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Wed, 02-03-2010 - 8:31am

Buddy~

I am also so sorry for the loss of your family member. You are grieving and really need to deal with this right now, and do not need even more grief over JAM who is condescending and disrespectful. Are you in any kind of counseling? I would strongly advise it for both of your losses, but mostly for the person who was IN your life, not on the sidelines.

((Hugs))

~ Iddy~

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 01-01-2008
Wed, 02-03-2010 - 9:04am

dear iddy,


i have been in counseling on and off for several years.

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Registered: 04-20-2009
Wed, 02-03-2010 - 9:57am

Buddy,
You are not going to get kicked off this board for having a weak moment or breaking NC; a lot of us have done it, even IF we're committed to ending the A. The purpose of this board is to keep us moving in the right direction of healing and ending the A, not to be overlords. I hope that you will feel like, even if you have a backsliding moment, you'll come to us for support and encouragement -- however, I hope you'll remember to come here FISRT, before you take any action, so that we can work through it with you and possibly save you from a horrible, painful mistake that sets you back.

I was very blessed, more so that most on this board, in that my xAP did not contact me or want to contact me in the early stages. I was very week, and by grace of God, I was not tempted and did not have to deal with particular difficult challenge of ignoring his fishing attempts. I hope you will have the confidence and strength very soon to resist your X's attempts, if he makes them, or that you will be as lucky as I and not have to deal with it at all.

Blessings and support.
Dee

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Registered: 10-04-2009
Wed, 02-03-2010 - 12:38pm

Buddy -


As Dee already told you, you won't be kicked off this board for having a weak moment or feeling like you don't know what you'll do if he tries to contact you.

NC since October 2, 2009.

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Registered: 01-01-2008
Wed, 02-03-2010 - 1:48pm

We are both married, and yes, i was a bit relieved that for the first time i got angry enough to feel in my heart that i could walk away this time.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-04-2009
Wed, 02-03-2010 - 2:17pm

I think we all wish we could simply fast forward through the pain and get to true indifference.

NC since October 2, 2009.

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Registered: 10-20-2009
Wed, 02-03-2010 - 3:45pm

Well buddy, first let me welcome ((HUG)) you to the board and say I am sorry

BE the change that you want to see in the world! Life loves me and I love life! <3