What I miss more...
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| Sun, 06-27-2010 - 3:48am |
...is my job.
I have never ever missed something so much (not even xAP) as I miss my job. No relationship loss compares to what I have lost; my job meant more to me than any relationship I had.
I handled ending the affair better than I'm handling the pain of losing my job. I realized a long time ago that my xAP was a worthless piece of sh*t and I wasted 2 years of my life on him...and apparently 6 months after the affair, I'm still paying for it.
To the Newbies:
Please, PLEASE, please realize that affairs are terrible, terrible things and that your xAP might have meant something to you now, but years from now, he's going to be a speck of a memory in your life. Affairs are not worth losing your family, husband/wife, kids, job, friends etc... over. Trust me, speaking from experience (and I have gone down several tough knocks to know better!!) that affairs are just ...well, stupid.
I'm not trying to take away your pain or lessen the blow but in the end, think who has the most to lose, you or xAP?
I read some tough stories on the thread (What was your breaking point) and I realize that I'm not the only one that made mistakes... hopefully we grow from these. No contact is the absolute way to go...if you open the door and let him squirm his way back in... and trust me, he WILL, you're headed down a spiral. Time is the best healer... separation and distance.
You don't want to lose as much as I have lost.
NC since Dec. 9th 2009
No Contact = No New Hurts
Silence is Golden; Silence is Dignified; Silence speaks volumes.
Remember: Out of sight, out of mind.

Hey Ilostagain,
I was thinking about you this morning and wondered how you were doing... if you still had your job. They fired you? I am so sorry for you :-( I wish I knew what to say to make you feel better.
Hugs to you,
HTGO
HI-
I have been on vacation for a week and just got back into town.