What is Needed in Life and in R?
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| Fri, 10-22-2004 - 10:02am |
Do you ever make lists of what you need or want? I have.
There are two men in my life, both very important to me. I will think that maybe neither of them are right for me because if one was then it would be a no brainer. I also know that with one I may give up something I need or want and that would mean I am settling. So, again, I know that maybe it's possible I just haven't met the "one that is meant to be". However, it does not chnage who I feel now about these two.
I made a list of everything I want to need in someone, to what I am attracted to and how I need to feel. After I made this list I thought about how these two men "fit". What I discovered is that one of them has all the qualities that I am attracted to but the other has the qualitites of how he treats me or I would need to be treated. Here are my questions I am asking for help on?
What is better,to be with someone who you are attracted to in every way or one who treats you the way you need to be treated. Now, it does not mean that the one I am attracted to treats me bad or vice versa its' just more of. When I say attracted to I just don't mean looks I mean his qualities, is mind, work ethic, interests, etc.
You can't change who someone is so I can't expect the guy who treats me as I need to all of a sudden get this quealities, its his personality, his interests but could I expect the other to treat me as i need or have those thought processes if we were to commit where we do live together or get married? The one who treats me awesome I have known for a very long time and the other not so long so would that come with time or is this how he will be. It has been at least 3 years with him now and the other like 10.
Does this makse sense what I am asking. This is something I think about 24/7 because i just want to know. I want to live my life but I feel I can't if I am constantly second guessing of where I should be or who I should be with.
Please, any advice or experiences would be appreciated. I am new to this board.
~ J
