What NOT to do.......

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Registered: 08-20-2009
What NOT to do.......
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Mon, 09-14-2009 - 8:22pm

Good Evening Beautiful Ladies;


I just started EAS only 5 weeks ago. Seems like a lifetime! More roller coaster ride than i ever had planned on.


My xMM ended the A because he felt D-day was imminent. I knew for months it was the best thing for me. I tried on several occasions to end it. With all the emotional breakdown that one person could survive. But he kept creeping into my psyche. We both had an agreement LC at all times. xMM stated he would never seek me out in that way again while he was M. And if by chance that changed, But i moved on and found someone, He would not seek me out to ruin that. A gentlemen's agreement.


Anyway, I did LC as best as i could. We only had contact at work for whatever was necessary. The first two weeks were a

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Registered: 08-09-2009
Mon, 09-14-2009 - 10:06pm

I am almost at the exact place right now too! I was given the "move on without me" email as well. Problem is i know him too well and can see the words and the body language do not add up. All i can suggest to you is to take what comes out of his mouth and what he writes and go with that. Even if he has inner demons that he is struggling with, hanging on will change nothing and allow him to feel that he doesnt need to choose. Unfortunately maybe this time you will have to walk away until he shows you the proof rather of the D papers rather than believing what comes from his mouth. He probably means what he says at the time, but reality of the W and his whole situation hits him after the fact so you are left wondering again.

IMO try to move past him- its safer for your sanity.I wish you very the best.

SB

Que Sera Sera - Whatever will be, will be.
Que Sera Sera - Whatever will be, will be.
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Tue, 09-15-2009 - 9:47am

Awakening


What a slime ball.

 

              &n

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Registered: 09-25-2006
Tue, 09-15-2009 - 9:56am
He's a drama queen.
Onward and upward.
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Registered: 04-07-2009
Tue, 09-15-2009 - 10:04am

Awakening -


I am so sorry that you had to go through this.

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Registered: 08-18-2008
Tue, 09-15-2009 - 11:09am
Oh Awakening,

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 05-30-2006
Tue, 09-15-2009 - 11:47am

Awakening,


You have learned a very painful lesson here, that breaking NC only causes new hurts. Calling you to tell you to read an email was the first BIG

Messenger

"When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time."

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Registered: 09-01-2009
Tue, 09-15-2009 - 12:21pm
Wow! What a prize! It reminds me of everything I've been reading about how AP's or xAP's in our case are in dire need of an ego stroking. I think that's what he was looking for just to know that he could reel you back in and stroke his ego. At least you've already thrown that garbage in the trash it stinks! Hope you don't have to go through that again!
“There are things that we never want to let go of, people we never want to leave behind. But keep in mind that letting go isn’t the end of the world, it’s the beginning of a new life.”
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Registered: 02-05-2009
Tue, 09-15-2009 - 12:39pm

Awakening....

ugh!! What a prize-winning d!ck. Kudos for not falling for it... and yeah, I know how you feel, rubbing your face from having stepped on the rake again. You'll be OK, sweetie. At least this experience has surely squashed any remote romantic illusions you still had of him, lol :)

hugs!!!

trixie xo



Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, it is about learning to dance in the rain.”
Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, it is about learning to
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Registered: 04-04-2009
Tue, 09-15-2009 - 1:23pm
(((Messenger))) SO (!!!) nice to see you again!
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Registered: 05-30-2006
Tue, 09-15-2009 - 4:10pm

Thanks, HTGO. Now that the new school

Messenger

"When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time."

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