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| Mon, 11-01-2004 - 1:03pm |
I’ve managed to give lots of great excuses to my H. about why I cry, or don’t eat or don’t feel like talking about the mundane of our lives. Thankfully, that-time-of-the-month has actually worked to my advantage.
Last night I was with my H and son at the Halloween event at my church. One of my friends came up and asked that question, “Are you doing ok? Everything going ok at work? You just haven’t been you usual outgoing, bubbly fun self lately.”
What I wanted to tell her is that I recently ended a two-and-a-half love affair that was very passionate, very intense. I have a broken heart and I’m pining for a man who, when the time came, chose his wife over me and never wants to see or hear from me again. I feel rejected, lonely and my guilt over having an affair sometimes makes me sick. And, I’m having a hard time figuring out where I fit in my own life.
Instead, I told her that I was just tired.
So my question is this, “What coping mechanisms do you use to seem ‘normal’ on the outside when you feel terrible on the inside?”
Whatever I’m doing is apparently not working very well.

You used the same excuse I use to every time someone asked me what is wrong with you.
I am tired, Yes tired of feeling torn, broken hearted, sick to my stomach and not to mention the overbarring guilt I carried for 3.5 years.
I dont know what to tell others when they ask me. I sometimes have even said nothing, why? does it seem like somethings wrong with me, all the time I am feeling lousy for just having lied again. I am usually a very outgoing person, bubbly personality and love to be around others, When my Affair ended I had no desires to even want to speak, the only person I put up a front for was my H. My front has gotten better I am starting to come around but I still feel a torn inside.
If you find a good excuse please let me know....
I hope you get better, wishing you lots of strength.
Take Care
Ladybug