What stage am I on?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-12-2010
What stage am I on?
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Tue, 04-13-2010 - 12:27am

I was looking at the stages of grief and I can't figure out where I fit in.

I'm confused, fearful, numb, frustrated, irritated, embarrassed, shameful, overwhelmed, have a lack of energy, and I am sharing my story with a few close friends.

These feelings are coming and going at a rapid pace. I don't know how I am going to feel from day to day. Hell, more like from minute to minute. Is this normal? Do we flip flop around the stages?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-31-2009
Tue, 04-13-2010 - 9:13am

Hi Who,


I'll chime in about the stages of grief.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-06-2007
Tue, 04-13-2010 - 11:14am
whoiwanttobe, don't try to put yourself in a "stage". I think the stages are a guideline and not meant that is exactly how it will progress for everyone. I can tell you it takes time and you will flip flop between good days and bad. As time passes, you will grow more aware of who you are, what happened and why. When I ended my affair, I was immediately relieved it was over. I felt soooo empowered and I felt "bigger" than xAP because I had the good sense to stop the madness. But within a month, I became very sad, I was missing the daily connection, my ego boost, my secret friend. As I continued to question myself, I became furious at xAP. But I soon realized that fury should have been directed to myself because I let it happen. It was after realizing that I went to a calmer "stage". And all this did not happen in a few months, more like close to a year. So hang in there!