WHAT STAGE IS ANGER?

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Registered: 07-09-2003
WHAT STAGE IS ANGER?
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Thu, 06-16-2005 - 6:02pm
My MM hopefully after today XMM, has lied to me SOOO much over the 5 years, but every time I have caught him of course denied it. Well our last fight he kept callin gme late at night and I heard music in the backround, he swears he was at home, alone again always alone my wife is never home, as he always tells me, so I said OK let me call you back, did not tell him I was calling his house and lw and behold the wife answers half asleep. Lie number one but he still triess to dig himself out it, I am in the drive way she is in the house, I KNOW NIGHT CLUB MUSIC, so I tell him ok I am outside your drive way. SO TODAY after a few days of trying to lie he admits he was at a club. Which if he had admitted when he was I would have been fine with it because he must have called me 50 times, he was not having fun, but I cant get over the LIE, I KNIW HE has always lied but NOW, HE AND I both KNOW he lied to me and he admitted it. I CANT EVER BELIEVE ANYTJING HE TELLS ME AGAIN. I very calmly told him (because he never respects NC) I told him, very nice, I have about 10 messages wher eyou are telling me how much you love me IF YOU EVER CALL ME AGAIN I will record them and send them to your wife, I HATE YOU AND I AM DONE, DO NOT EVER CALL ME AGAIN. I hung up. I am so angry, why, I have known what a liar he is for the entire time. I HOPE THIS ANGER GETS ME THROUGH THIS!
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Registered: 04-04-2005
Thu, 06-16-2005 - 6:50pm

Fooled

>"I HOPE THIS ANGER GETS ME THROUGH THIS!"<

It will help for a few weeks and often that is the hardest hump to deal with.

Are you prepared to back up that threat if he thinks you bluffing and lack the gonads to follow through ?

Stay strong enough of this liar.

Free

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Registered: 07-09-2003
Thu, 06-16-2005 - 7:49pm
I DO NOT THINK HE BELEIVES ME! Why would he, I have done this so many times. like today when I picked up he knew I was furious he said hello princess like all was fine. But I do not think I can ever forgive that we had a fight (I was childless that weekend) (I have been begging to go out and he never takes me out) he goes. Then he calls and rubs it in my face he is at a party. I will never forgive him! He has shown his TRUE colors that I always knew were there was just too "attached" to see. I just need to make sure this anger does not get worse because I just want to move on!
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Registered: 12-05-2004
Thu, 06-16-2005 - 9:34pm

some of these people put a lot of energy into lying...the truth wouldve been accepted...so it makes me think...they DO get a thrill out of making someone a fool....that thought...should fuel your anger...and sadness unfortunately...later it will fuel complacency ...which IS the opposite of love ..not hate...

when you get to a point of complacency you will handle this and be gone forever....strive to get to complacency...hate has too much passion involved in it.

good luck and strength and most of all WISDOM to drive you,
Lizzie

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Registered: 04-24-2005
Thu, 06-16-2005 - 9:38pm