What a tangled web we weave...

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Registered: 09-17-2010
What a tangled web we weave...
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Thu, 09-23-2010 - 12:30pm

...when first we practice to deceive.



I'm no doubt getting exactly what I deserve.



XAP and I have been off and on for over

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 1:41pm

Diva,



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   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 02-25-2010
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 6:54pm

Hi Firey



What a tangled web we weave...... i used that exact phrase

New Choices, New Chapter,


New Challenges,

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Registered: 09-17-2010
Fri, 09-24-2010 - 1:08pm

Hello Iddy and thank you for the reply.

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Registered: 07-24-2005
Fri, 09-24-2010 - 2:11pm

Hi OFUD :)



Perhaps it might help to


iVillage Member
Registered: 09-17-2010
Fri, 09-24-2010 - 2:30pm

I don't want to dispute your point, clarity, but have you not heard the expression, "Women use sex to get love and men use love to get sex"?



If I'm wrong, I'm wrong, but you didn't have to be so

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Fri, 09-24-2010 - 3:50pm

Diva~



<until he gets what he wants which is simply

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 09-17-2010
Fri, 09-24-2010 - 4:17pm

Thanks, Iddy.



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Registered: 04-04-2009
Sat, 09-25-2010 - 6:28am

Hey Diva,
I tried to send you an email, but you opted not to receive any emails. Would you mind emailing me? I think our situations are quite similar.

Hugs,
HTGO

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Registered: 06-17-2010
Sat, 09-25-2010 - 8:33am

Hi Diva -

I do hope you continue to read and post here. Nothing that is said on EAS is ever meant in a vicious manner. I've been here long enough now to have watched several debates on tough love. I've seen some posters pick up their toys and leave. I've seen some suddenly "get it" and stick around and others leave and come back. I copied and pasted this from a response to my Tweener thread - is was from Heartofsix:

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Lol...little did I know that her up-front, straightforward approach would be exactly what I needed!>>>>

Keep in mind a couple of things - the people here before us have been through what we have. They see things with different eyes. But also remember that when you are reading something (as opposed to talking to someone) you don't get the benefit of the "feeling" behind the words. That's the downfall of our technological age. My daughter tells me all the time if I don't put a smiley face after things I text her it "sounds" like I'm mad!

Food for thought :)

Bodhi

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Registered: 03-29-2009
Sat, 09-25-2010 - 10:36am

ofud,

welcome to EAS. it's funny how we come to "know" one another over the screen after years of lurking or posting--yet we could pass one another on the street daily, unknowing.

congratulations to you on three weeks of NC. that is a herculean achievement--it really is. my early days of ending were so hard, i felt like i couldn't catch my breath from minute to minute. you are stronger than you know. you have a resolve in you that is formidable.

i think you mis-read clarity's post to you. having read here for years and knowing her "style", i don't believe that she would ever purposefully drag or put someone down. i think her words to you about xap using you were to give you ammunition and resolve when you spoke about your fear of caving in to his disgusting and selfish demands.
the other stuff about women rejecting the advances of men and looking only to ourselves for approval--was a wish for you, and for all of us with "daddy or self esteem issues" or whatever the hell our issues are, God knows we've all got 'em. the point is, no matter where we are on the journey, all of us aspire to be the strong, wise, self-possessed, self-validating women that we were born to be, that we all really are inside. clarity was just shining a light on your potential.

best to you,
lillie

silence is eloquent, silence is dignified, silence is heard. ...
silence is eloquent, silence is dignified, silence is heard. ...

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