I threw out every IM, email, photo. deleted photos from our private Flickr page. Deleted all the private email and myspace accounts.
I did this all very soon after the break up. It hurt to wallow in them and I didn't want to have to struggle with the temptation to do that; so, I got the temporary strength to delete and I took advantage of it. Soooooo glad I did.
A week or two after our teary g-bye, he mailed me a book that he promised. A Kafka bio. Valuable first edition, I think. I still have not thrown that out, but I do think I'll give it away soon (after I read it!)
I still have not thrown out the $1 bracelet. It's from the Little Mexico part of our city - has pictures of saints on little wood squares. I loved it and wore it all the time. He had one too and kept it on his nightstand (so he says). I guess I'm a little bittersweet about the bracelet, but mostly I think I keep it to remind me that I'm 'never going there' again. I don't take it out of the box to look at it, and I'll never wear it again; I think the saints would burn blisters on my wrist, if I did.
I have deleted and crushed..all emails..texts ...email accounts..cards..cds with songs he burned me...but have kept some jewelry and a few more keepsakes....also he got me an i touch..watch...i like them for ME..lol..i figure i earned a few things..that stuff is not so sentimental....like the emails and cards..... but i will eventually pitch them when i dont have a use for them anymore:) Oh and i pitched HIM.....does that count??
"Women can fake orgasms but men can fake entire relationships" -Sharon Stone
I deleted every email - 3 years worth of nauseating dribble.
I threw out every picture with the exception of one from his college days. It is put away where I don't see it. In fact haven't looked at it in 18 mos.
Threw out one of his shirts he gave me.
But holy smokes, I never would have thought of throwing out all the bras and undies!! OMG - how funny. xAP and I were on a "honeymoon" of sorts once and I pulled him into a Victoria's Secret.
I wear a 34D. Send that sh*t on! I will redeem it with my H! haahahah!
Regarding clothes: xAP _always_ criticized my clothes. He was the possessive jealous type and had a weird Madonna/Whore complex. Even when I dressed just for him to see, he'd fuss about it being "too sexy". Ugh. So irritating (and demeaning to be told how to dress). Anyway, I kept all of those dresses and LOVE the fact that my DH loves them and thinks I look HOT and I can't wait to wear them again with the _right_ man this time.
I have gotten rid of everything (which was basically just emails and a CD) except a blanket that he gave to me. I can't seem to throw it away. It is a perfectly good blanket and it is put away so I don't see it every day. I probably should give it to Goodwill.
Ah iddy! Your post made me smile! lol I have so many Victoria's Secret bras and panties that put together I could buy an expensive HDTV! But alas I didn't buy them for him, I had them way before him too.... I wouldn't throw those stuff out too much money for me! lol
BUT...I did throw out ALL the stuffed animals he gave me (some new, some used that belonged to his wife eww!!!) The ones he bought for his wife that he gave to me, I took scissors and cut them all apart. It was very therapeutic!
It's funny how all of us have in common in that we saved texts, pictures, e-mails, IMS, etc... I deleted all of them too. I felt good after doing so because when I held on to them, I would catch myself reading through them...its too painful of a reminder. So glad I got rid of them all.
It feels like a 'new' me has been born and ready for 2010!
Ok but kidding aside I had to think about what I threw away and what I got rid of and other than emails/text/photos I had to really think about it...and this is what came to mind:
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
You know, I can't even find it now because it's embedded in another thread somewhere, but Mickey was talking about a few things that Xmm had given her and Dee wrote a one liner to just, "Throw
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Ha! Glad I made you laugh!
I threw out every IM, email, photo. deleted photos from our private Flickr page. Deleted all the private email and myspace accounts.
I did this all very soon after the break up. It hurt to wallow in them and I didn't want to have to struggle with the temptation to do that; so, I got the temporary strength to delete and I took advantage of it. Soooooo glad I did.
A week or two after our teary g-bye, he mailed me a book that he promised. A Kafka bio. Valuable first edition, I think. I still have not thrown that out, but I do think I'll give it away soon (after I read it!)
I still have not thrown out the $1 bracelet. It's from the Little Mexico part of our city - has pictures of saints on little wood squares. I loved it and wore it all the time. He had one too and kept it on his nightstand (so he says). I guess I'm a little bittersweet about the bracelet, but mostly I think I keep it to remind me that I'm 'never going there' again. I don't take it out of the box to look at it, and I'll never wear it again; I think the saints would burn blisters on my wrist, if I did.
I don't have any 'physical' items that I can think of....
-Sharon Stone
I deleted every email - 3 years worth of nauseating dribble.
I threw out every picture with the exception of one from his college days. It is put away where I don't see it. In fact haven't looked at it in 18 mos.
Threw out one of his shirts he gave me.
But holy smokes, I never would have thought of throwing out all the bras and undies!! OMG - how funny. xAP and I were on a "honeymoon" of sorts once and I pulled him into a Victoria's Secret.
I wear a 34D. Send that sh*t on! I will redeem it with my H! haahahah!
Regarding clothes: xAP _always_ criticized my clothes. He was the possessive jealous type and had a weird Madonna/Whore complex. Even when I dressed just for him to see, he'd fuss about it being "too sexy". Ugh. So irritating (and demeaning to be told how to dress). Anyway, I kept all of those dresses and LOVE the fact that my DH loves them and thinks I look HOT and I can't wait to wear them again with the _right_ man this time.
Ah iddy! Your post made me smile! lol I have so many Victoria's Secret bras and panties that put together I could buy an expensive HDTV! But alas I didn't buy them for him, I had them way before him too.... I wouldn't throw those stuff out too much money for me! lol
BUT...I did throw out ALL the stuffed animals he gave me (some new, some used that belonged to his wife eww!!!) The ones he bought for his wife that he gave to me, I took scissors and cut them all apart. It was very therapeutic!
It's funny how all of us have in common in that we saved texts, pictures, e-mails, IMS, etc... I deleted all of them too. I felt good after doing so because when I held on to them, I would catch myself reading through them...its too painful of a reminder. So glad I got rid of them all.
It feels like a 'new' me has been born and ready for 2010!
ps. NC=NO NEW HURTS SO TRUE!
NC since Dec. 9th 2009
No Contact = No N
Hi Iddy,
I am a bit of a silly rabbit...lol
Ok but kidding aside I had to think about what I threw away and what I got rid of and other than emails/text/photos I had to really think about it...and this is what came to mind:
I
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
Sienna,
You know, I can't even find it now because it's embedded in another thread somewhere, but Mickey was talking about a few things that Xmm had given her and Dee wrote a one liner to just, "Throw
~Iddy~
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