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what a wimp
| Sun, 07-25-2010 - 10:15pm |
Just want to tell what happened tonight. It is kind of funny and kind of makes me angry.
I was coming home. I had to stop at red light. JAM pulls up right beside me. His wife and daughter were in car. When he sees me. All of the sudden he runs the red light, makes an illegal u turn across 2 lanes of traffic and goes the opposite way. WTH did he think I was going to jump out of my car and into his. Or follow him. My kids were in the car with me.
But it kind of opened my eyes to what a pathetic,cowardly,wimp he really is. But now my problem is I really want to send him a text and tell him he doesn't have to risk his families lives that I am over him and he doesn't have to worry about running into me because I have no desire to ever speak to him again. And to thank him for doing me a favor because I would have hated to end up with such a coward. I don't want him out here thinking I am still hung up on him or something.
I was coming home. I had to stop at red light. JAM pulls up right beside me. His wife and daughter were in car. When he sees me. All of the sudden he runs the red light, makes an illegal u turn across 2 lanes of traffic and goes the opposite way. WTH did he think I was going to jump out of my car and into his. Or follow him. My kids were in the car with me.
But it kind of opened my eyes to what a pathetic,cowardly,wimp he really is. But now my problem is I really want to send him a text and tell him he doesn't have to risk his families lives that I am over him and he doesn't have to worry about running into me because I have no desire to ever speak to him again. And to thank him for doing me a favor because I would have hated to end up with such a coward. I don't want him out here thinking I am still hung up on him or something.

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Hi Willow,
I’m glad you came here to vent and write it all out instead of contacting Mr. Mario Andretti.
His wife is prego and kids in the car too and he risks their lives. What an idiot!
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The best way to communicate to him that you are over him is to not contact him at all. Do nothing. Silence says so much more than you could ever say in a text or email.
Much love and big hugs,
E1
Whether you think you can or you think you can’t you are probably right.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
Wow willow - that must have been so jarring to see him behave that way.
"I just don't understand how I became the enemy. All I did was love him."
I think in time you will come to see that you did a lot more than love him ... by engaging in the destructive A with him is how you became the enemy: to the stability and future of his family.
He is doing what we advocate here all the time, albeit way more dramatically. He is avoiding you at all costs and protecting himself and his family; although his crazy driving is uncalled for and likely drew way more attention to the situation than need be. If I was his family, I would be like 'huh?! wtf?' It probably caught him so off guard that he went into fight or flight mode.
It doesn't matter that he knows you are not trying to contact him, it only matters that YOU do not contact him or respond to any and all attempts at contact he may make in the future.
Take care of yourself,
TU.
LC/NC since April 14, 2010
"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
Hello Willow,
I didn't mean literally you were a threat to his partner & family, and I sure didn't imply you were 'the' bad guy.
However, as he has decided (apparently) to end the affair and move on, you and the A ARE a 'threat' to the stability and future of his family (as is he/the A to your family & future). Perhaps he is concerned that you are unpredictable and a Dday for him/you is what he is trying to avoid.
He seems to be putting whatever kinda distance he needs between you and him ... regardless of what he has said in the past, he actions now are sending a very different message all together. I hope he continues to leave you alone to move on with your life.
I am sorry you are hurting and I am glad that you are seeing him for the man that he is. I would have felt very similar to the way you did Willow.
TU.
LC/NC since April 14, 2010
"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
Willow -
It's those moments that catch us completely off guard that are the hardest aren't they? I have felt like the "enemy" a lot - I've even said the words "I'm not the enemy!" to XAP several times. I was always treated like I was part of the problem, when I viewed myself as the solution. And like you, I was left thinking "all I did was want to love you."
Don't take his actions personally. Let it go and keep focusing on you.
Bodhi
You are so right. He doesn't want me around precious little wife. Especially after all her dirty, little secrets he told me.
I just think he is taking the whole scared thing to the extreme. It isn't like I have been calling or threatning him in any way. It really opens my eyes to his character though. And that is a good thing.
"You are so right. He doesn't want me around precious little wife. Especially after all her dirty, little secrets he told me."
Willow - please read the response E1 wrote to the thread "Putting the boot on the other foot". I know that you are early in the ending process - but your focus
"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
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