What would you do?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
What would you do?
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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 9:01am
I just found out the other day that a married female freind of mine was seen kissing and holding hands with another man. I am saddened by this. Shes knows the turmoils that I have been through and I just cant beleive that she is doing this. I know that sounds hypocritical of me but she was a person I confided in. A person who recommended that I join her church. Told me over and over again to resolve issues with my marriage...and here she is???

Anyway my point is if you had a close friend that you saw entering into a affair. What would you say? Especially after everything you have gone through? I feel as if I should say something. Tell her that she just doesn not realize the reprocussions of what she is doing. Or should I just not say anything? She has a very loving husband a teenage daughter and a 3 year old son.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 03-28-2003 - 9:51am
I would be sort of skeptical. You didn't see her yourself it sounds like. Maybe the person who thinks they saw her didn't really see her. Maybe they're just starting rumors. I would definitely talk to her about it though. Don't judge her. Just let her know what someone told you and see what she says.

I wouldn't judge her and I wouldn't try to convince her to stay out of it though. If she's in love with the guy she will probably get involved whether or not she knows it's wrong.

But do try to confirm what this other person saw. It could just be a mistake.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 03-28-2003 - 10:01am
Thanks. I am just very concerned. I just feel that I should say something. I want no one to go through the turmoil that I/WE (all of us here) are going through. She is a great person and so is her husband. :( Makes me incredibly sad...

AND unfortunatley I WISH it was just a rumor.