What's the best way to end an A

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Registered: 05-10-2004
What's the best way to end an A
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Wed, 05-12-2004 - 10:53pm
I'm new to the board and was wondering what is the best way to end an A. I have been involved for about 6 months (both of us are married and went into this knowing that it would never be more than what it is). As much as it was a wonderful distraction from reality, I started to have real emotions for him (and I think he did too) and we started taking more risks and living too close to the edge for me. He knows I need to end it soon and have told him that when I do, he needs to let me go. Anyway, I don't know the easiest way to do it for both him and me. I would never want to hurt him and I want to just remember this time as a wonderful experience and start concentrating on my family. It's going to be so hard not to see/talk to him, as we see each other almost every day. We are also involved in a business transaction which will end at the end of the month so that is when NC would be the most feasible.

Anyway,I just needed to put a voice to something that I can't talk about out loud. Thanks for listening.

Gem

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Thu, 05-13-2004 - 5:34pm
If he already knows your business will end at the end of the month and you tell him now it will give you two a chance to say goodbye (and a warning). My one and a half year A ended that way. I kind of knew it was coming-we worked together and he switched his schedule to help his family life and that resulted in us not crossing each others paths. That is the only way it could have ended. Neither of us wanted that but it was the only way. We would have gone on until something or someone else stopped it for us. I'm glad we had kind of a "goodbye" phase-that way neither one felt rejected or resentful. One good thing is we were always honest with each other about our feelings. I still love him a lot and miss him a lot but I'm glad I had the warning time before the NC. Hope this makes sense. It worked for me.