whats the difference

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Registered: 12-19-2003
whats the difference
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Sat, 02-28-2004 - 3:39pm
Ok so what is everyone's opinion. . .

What is the difference between an emotional affair and a platonic friendship(whether it started out platonic or not)?

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Registered: 11-17-2003
Sat, 02-28-2004 - 10:42pm
For me, the difference between a platonic friend and an emotional affair is that neither person is terribly attracted to the other so we can relate kind of like girlfriends...my favorite type of male friends are gay men...because chemistry will never be an issue and I can relax and enjoy them for who they are.

Emotional affair implies that boundaries have been crossed...inappropriate conversations, intense feelings, looks, stolen moments, kissing, caressing, etc. There's a tenderness there that violates the trust between you and your spouse...it's when all the red lights go off in your head and you know you should stop but you can't...you're hooked...it's too exhilarating...it would be a safe place if you were both free...