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What's wrong with me?
| Mon, 10-18-2010 - 10:44pm |
5 weeks tomorrow.. And I think I'm just stuck. I'm still wrestling with not thinking about him and trying not to wonder about him. My heart still hurts and while the tears are way less I still fight them back once a day until my throat burns. I know I did the right thing but I still miss it/him. I make plans everyday with a friend, I read here, I text and call my H more often, we have lunch, I play tennis, I work on my clients project, planning a dinner party for next Weekend... but still...
What am I doing wrong? Am I just a slow learner?
C

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okay let's re-visit what you've accomplished in just 5 weeks:
- While still wrestling with not thinking about him and trying not to wonder about him, you've learned to NOT act on those feelings. You are managing the emotions, letting them come and wash over you, without drowning you. That's progress!
- While your heart still hurts, the tears are way less and you are able to fight them back once a day until your throat burns. So, while it hurts, this is hurt that heals. Push through.
- You know that you did right thing, and you reconize that you are still early in the ending process, so it is normal to still think that you miss it/him.
- Instead of giving in/up, youI make plans everyday with a friend, you read here, you text and call your H more often, you have lunch, you play tennis, you work on your clients project, planning a dinner party for nexts eeekrnd.
uuuuhhhmm, sorry but I fail to see anything wrong with you!!!
You're (doing amazing).
Be patient & gentle & keep moving ahead.
((hugs))
TU.
Hi chechi,
I am only a new poster and I hope I can give you something that might help.
To: All (I miss this option),
Renewal used a good word. "Funk." I remember being in it for several months, and no one likes feeling this way. There is nothing wrong with any of you. You are going through the grieving process right now while trying to appear normal to those around you. It's a very tough role to play and it can leave us feeling exhausted. I am hoping you were able to get some rest last night. Ironically, sleep was the only thing I had no trouble with but it's also a form of escape, and I was doing way too much of it. A good night's rest produces the hormones Melatonin and HDH, which are strong antioxidants that boost our immune systems. This is why we always feel better in the morning after a previously stressful day. (As long as we slept well). If you tossed and turned all night, well, you are in for another rough day. So I would suggest taking a little something (over the counter sleep aids work great) so you can get those bodies/minds of yours rested and up to par. :smileywink:
Chechi, you are doing all the right things, honey. It's only been 5 weeks. Cut yourself some slack. Your "new" normal will take several months to kick in and even then there are going to be up and down days. By then though, you will know how to handle them better.
((Hugs))
Chechi-- you and I started this journey at the same time and we are plodding along at the same rate.
Im with you in the funk!
Iggyx
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