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What's your opinion?
| Thu, 02-26-2004 - 7:26am |
Do you think that a man that has been involved in an affair could ever truly fall in love with the woman he is seeing? Not for security, or sex, but true love. I have often wondered this. Most of the time, I'm sure, it's the woman that falls in love first, and most of the posts here state that. What do you think?
Myself I think it could happen, but I am a hopeless romantic. And a FOOL for awhile, while I was in an affair.
TCOM

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Edited 10/1/2004 6:30 pm ET ET by sally289
Of course its possible...because anything is possible. In fact, I've known a couple people to have an affair, leave the marriage, and marry the OW/OM and have very loving marriages. However, I think that the majority people confuse what love is. I think that if you *truly* love someone that it would prompt you to leave a marriage. I also think that sometimes people *think* they are in love, but realize its not...that what they feel is passion or lust, albeit very toxic.
Love is nothing how I've pictured it or imagined it to be. In fact, what I thought was love, I find is doing an about face these days....but that's my stuff. I can safely say that exMM had some strong feelings for me, but I can't say it was love. He never said those words, neither did I. I know I *felt* like I fell in love with him...but I also think that my abusive marriage has left me very needy in many ways...so now I question how I felt. Maybe it was love, maybe it wasn't.
In any case...what does it matter in the end? If someone choses another over you, then you have to question their feelings to begin with....but then again, unconditional love also lays no claims to ownership, either. Who knows......
dharma
Yes, it's possible.
I think most women who are truely in love would give up everything to be with their man , but men need security first. You may see many divorce women who remain alone for a long time because I beleive we are more self reliant but most men rush on to the next women because they can't cope on their own.
I think when it comes to the crunch as there are no guarentees that the relationship with the other women will last they stay with what they know where they are safe. They fall in love they just weigh everything up when it comes to the final decision and basically bottle it.
My Opinion? My MALE opinion?
Just my opinion
Good luck to you
TCOM
Jazzdiva
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