When ending it hurts and staying hurts!!
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When ending it hurts and staying hurts!!
| Wed, 06-16-2004 - 11:28am |
To anyone who can offer words of wisdom/experience....I have been with MM for 4 years now and so much has happened. I left my H after 14 years, and then MM moved out of state with his family. 2 years went by and we continued to see each other and kept long distance relationship going. After nearly two years of that long distance stuff, I relocated myself and my kids to his state and even took a job with him as my boss. WOW no doubt!! He made promises of us and even helped me find a place for us to live. Now 7 months later, he is STILL with his wife. He says he cant loose his kids, and if he gets divorced she will move kids back to the original state and he is heartbroken. He is a mess at the thought of loosing me and the thought of loosing his kids too. His wife is ready to leave and might possible do this by months end. I want to do whats right, but my heart keeps getting in the way. Its like we are so close and yet the pain and guilt are ever increasing. I am looking for advice...should I stick with it a little longer and see if she leaves, or should I just pack and run? Not that I think I can....but I truly need help. I guess I feel that if after all these years he cant just pick, then why be second choice. Counseling isnt helping me much and I am truly heartbroken over this whole thing. But be fair....I really do love this man! Thanks for any opinions.

Bird
I appreciate that you love this man.
HOWEVER:
He's a lying fencesitter, and you deserve a full time commitment from your partner, not just his convenience.
He won't "losse" his kids if he divorces. I didin't when I divorced my wife to move on with my life. And it was painful to end the fencesitting, however it came down to what was more painful: fencesitting and fear