when u found out it was only S**

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when u found out it was only S**
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Sat, 08-07-2010 - 1:14am

how long after you stopped seeing your AP did you actually come to grips with the fact that it was only the sex that he (or she) was interested in? how did it

when one does not love too much, one does not love enough --blaise pascal
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Sat, 08-07-2010 - 7:14am

MMM,


Welcome to Endings.


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Honey, I figured that one out while still in the affair. Actually, it was one of the main reasons I ended it (for the 3rd and final time). To be honest, it was something I didn't want to give up for the longest time, but when all of the other factors played in as to why it was wrong, I had reached my enough point. That was 6 years ago so I have had plenty of time to heal from this, but we still work together, so

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 07-20-2010
Sat, 08-07-2010 - 11:35am

I know exactly how you are feeling.

I was told he loved me and wanted to be with me in every way possible.
But he walked away without a word. I still hope for a text every day.
I also wonder how he can be so cold,callous and act like I never existed.

But keep reading here it has helped me. There are so many feeling the same way as us. I am amazed at the similarities of these mm. It is like they all read the same manual on having an affair. I thought what we had was different and special. But I am communicating with a lady in Australia and she has sent me some of the emails she had received from her XMM and they are almost word for word the things I received from mine.

I wish the best for you.

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Registered: 12-29-2008
Sat, 08-07-2010 - 11:36am

Hello Marie,


I so understand what you are saying.... I had the illusion that it was a friendship and the sex

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Sun, 08-08-2010 - 1:22am
thank u for the reply. i do appreciate it. i do have to say that i did not believe that we were meant to be together, i had no illusions of disrupting my family life or his; i did
when one does not love too much, one does not love enough --blaise pascal
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Sun, 08-08-2010 - 1:33am
i have not read the healing library, perhaps i will do that after i send this post. thanks for the suggestion. i have not been lurking, but rather reading with much interest for quite some time. i have posted here and on MAS in the past, just not regularly. 4 months NC has had to occur b/c he is out of state. of course there is always FB or email or the cell phones #s but what would it be for? a damaged long-distance/skype affair? i am not interested in that.
when one does not love too much, one does not love enough --blaise pascal
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Sun, 08-08-2010 - 1:38am

my guy never told me those things, but goodness i swear they were on the tip of his tongue every time we were together. i never expected to be with him in the end, neither of us wanted to break our families apart & he was moving out of state for a career change anyway, that was always a part of the plan. i guess realizing that he and i were never really friends is what hurts the most. i would have never treated a friend the way he

when one does not love too much, one does not love enough --blaise pascal