Where's your focus?
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|Tue, 05-13-2003 - 10:12am|
Could it be that you need to put the focus back on you? Could it be that you need to stop accepting the crumbs of a MM's life and being together when it is convenient for him? When was the last time you sat down and really thought about what you do deserve in a good, healthy relationship? Can you honestly say you are getting that now?
All the passion, all the emotions we let ourselves get tied up in end up ruling our better judgement. And until WE decide WE want a change that is going to be BEST for US, we will stay stuck in this crisis of a relationship we call love.
What is love? Do you really know? Does it involve respect? Is there really respect in a relationship where someone is cheating on someone they claim to love? Until we see the real picture and grasp the truth in these affairs, our chances of healing from them are slim. So why is it that we prefer to be in denail about the truth, rather than facing it? Is the high we get from being with these men really worth the pain? And since when is love supposed to hurt like this?
When you can take the focus off of what this MM/OM is thinking or feeling and put it back on yourself and what you want and deserve, then you will begin to take the action necessary to end your A and heal from it. What is it going to be? Heal and move on to a healthy productive relationship or stay stuck on the fence with some man who gives every excuse in the book for staying in a marriage he says he isn't happy with? If it was that bad, he would leave. Kids or no kids. It really doesn't take much of a man to run from his problems at home by involving himself with another woman, now does it? A real man would face all his problems within himself and at home in his marriage and make a good decision for himself without any third party's help, of course other than a professional counselor.
JMHO and feeling the need to vent. Time to grow up people? I know I am because I am not spending one more day pining over some man who thinks so little of me and his W as to do this to us.
God speed and hugs all around.