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who ended it
| Thu, 10-14-2004 - 3:00pm |
I know its just an ego thing. Do you ever find yourself rehashing everything said the last few times you talk and then wonder was he ending it or did it look like I did? Iknow I said we could'nt do this anymore and we needed to be with our spouses and that was the end and it went well but then I called back a few days later and he didn't want to talk to me and said he would call back - 3 weeks ago - so I guess he ended it with me. I wasn't call back to start things up - I just wanted to talk bc I was having a really hard time. You know when nobody knows about the A you have nobody to talk to and I just assumed he was having a hard time too. It appeared that I was only having a hard time and he got over me a long time ago. Just wondering if anyone out there feels like this. I have been strong by NC but in reality he brushed me off so I can't call.

Just to give you my perspective on this -
I ended it.
It wasn't easy, but I did.
He keeps trying to be 'friends'. I would really like that, however,
I am doubting if we ever really were. I'm not sure it is something that we can do so I am being very hard-nosed about this and doing the whole NC thing, etc.
It is NOT easy for me, though. It may appear to my XMM that it is easy for me not to contact him, to blow him off when he emails, and to stand my ground - but it is NOT.
When I get the urge to email him, I either post here or vent to friends and I overcome it.
I don't think ending things are easy on anyone.
OW did try to contact me a couple weeks ago, but it was a casual question in my area of expertise. Answered it, and haven't heard from her since.
He said he could not handle the "aftermath" of our physical times so he needed to end the affair. Funny thing is he still says we are friends and still IM's me. We only talk about 2 or 3 times a month.
I have been thinking he will get bored with me not JUMPING for him and move on..the contact seems to be getting less and less..:-).
Smiles
MB
Do I hurt? Only from potentially hurting and deceiving my wife. I also hurt from the way I broke contact with OW. I just stopped calling and writing. I know that had to hurt to some degree, but I was afraid had I not did that, I would be talked out of ending it.
Truthfully she has never called me. She has my work and cell. She's never called me once. I have called her just to confirm plans when I could not get a hold of her via instant messager.
She IMed me a few times since but I have blocked her IMs and jsut answered that one email. No I don't wish she would call me. I'm slowly putting the A behind me, but I have been tempted to go to counseling for things that led me to the A.