You know, sometimes it takes hitting bottom before we can start the climb up. There was a book called, "Been down so long it looks like up to me." I think that title could very easily
Hi littlesoul, I hope today finds you feeling a little better than yesterday. I know it is to see it now but that feeling you have of being so low is never going to go away unless you decide once and for all to be done with him. Girl, you have so much potential for happiness in your life and within yourself that you just have to move on away from this toxic relationship. I know you both have shared so so much, but this is just bringing you so down. The process of getting over an A is hard enough but you are still enthralled in it and delaying your recovery. I know from expereince that it is going to be hard to just stop it all together, but you are going to continue feeling horrible until you take a stand. I know you are kind of holding onto the idea that you two are meant to be together, which I would never ever disregard. But if that is the truth, then you are not meant to be together NOW. You are not meant to be feeling so much hurt and confusion every time youleave after spending time together. If he has your best interest at heart he would know that you need to work these things out before you can be together again. You truly are in a more difficult situation than I, and I definitely do not want you to feel worse than you already do. But it is true, sometimes you have to hit rock bottom and pick yourself up from there to move forward. I wish you a happy Monday. If you need me I am here. Hugs and kisses ~meg
" he told me it was time to go."..........This pretty much sums his feelings. Sorry, but he is only interested in one thing. You and your family deserve more. Everytime you start feeling weak, look yourself in the mirrow and say to yourself I am important, my family is important, my H is important....I will be strong for all of us. Only you can do it. Best of luck!
I know that our situations are very similar b/c our A's were with someone we met over 20 years ago. I do feel that the timing is not right for me and my xMM, maybe 5 years from now it will be. But for right now, I need to live my life and do things for me. Everyday it gets a little easier but I still have those days that it takes EVERYTHING I have got NOT to contact him again. It is very hard but I know I HAVE to do it, for myself as well as him. When I think about contacting him, I try to distract myself with other things or go for a run. I'm getting lots of exercise now :) and I feel better about myself.
This message board has helped me so much. I feel like I have been able to go through the grieving process a little faster than I would have without the support. I feel as if I'm almost to the point of acceptance and forgiving of myself for what I have done. I'm still working on trying to fall back in love with DH. We are going to go to a couples commuincation class next week.
(((Littlesoul)))
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You know, sometimes it takes hitting bottom before we can start the climb up. There was a book called, "Been down so long it looks like up to me." I think that title could very easily
Edited 2/8/2005 6:52 pm ET ET by littlesoul2
I hope today finds you feeling a little better than yesterday. I know it is to see it now but that feeling you have of being so low is never going to go away unless you decide once and for all to be done with him. Girl, you have so much potential for happiness in your life and within yourself that you just have to move on away from this toxic relationship. I know you both have shared so so much, but this is just bringing you so down. The process of getting over an A is hard enough but you are still enthralled in it and delaying your recovery. I know from expereince that it is going to be hard to just stop it all together, but you are going to continue feeling horrible until you take a stand. I know you are kind of holding onto the idea that you two are meant to be together, which I would never ever disregard. But if that is the truth, then you are not meant to be together NOW. You are not meant to be feeling so much hurt and confusion every time youleave after spending time together. If he has your best interest at heart he would know that you need to work these things out before you can be together again. You truly are in a more difficult situation than I, and I definitely do not want you to feel worse than you already do. But it is true, sometimes you have to hit rock bottom and pick yourself up from there to move forward.
I wish you a happy Monday.
If you need me I am here.
Hugs and kisses
~meg
ThOh Meg,
Edited 2/8/2005 6:53 pm ET ET by littlesoul2
Hi littlesoul,
I know that our situations are very similar b/c our A's were with someone we met over 20 years ago. I do feel that the timing is not right for me and my xMM, maybe 5 years from now it will be. But for right now, I need to live my life and do things for me. Everyday it gets a little easier but I still have those days that it takes EVERYTHING I have got NOT to contact him again. It is very hard but I know I HAVE to do it, for myself as well as him. When I think about contacting him, I try to distract myself with other things or go for a run. I'm getting lots of exercise now :) and I feel better about myself.
This message board has helped me so much. I feel like I have been able to go through the grieving process a little faster than I would have without the support. I feel as if I'm almost to the point of acceptance and forgiving of myself for what I have done. I'm still working on trying to fall back in love with DH. We are going to go to a couples commuincation class next week.
Hang in there, be strong. You can do it!
Dallas