Why can't I?

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Why can't I?
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Tue, 10-26-2010 - 6:06pm

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Tue, 10-26-2010 - 6:25pm

I invite you to examine your motivations.

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Registered: 01-18-2010
Tue, 10-26-2010 - 6:54pm
Alice,
U can not for several reasons...first, u will be breaking contact...ok, ok, I know u know that but I need to say it, secondly, he will likely not absorb a thing you say...he may not even read it. Take ur mouth off the crack pipe, if u need to call me I will send u my number but do not send that man a damn thing. I used to do it. Waste of time and energy... N the friend who sent an email off in college...total different relationship. He will not hear you. N it does not matter. U can show him better than anything you can tell him. Silence does speak volumes...u need to heed my words Chica...MM like my ex n urs love any type of attention. Good or bad. Anything. So anything u say in some so called emotionless email would be a total waste. He's a total narscisst, ok so I spelled that wrong you get my point. I will post more later. Gotta tend to dinner, homework, bath, bed. But don't u dare send him a thing...work thru the urge.
At least till I come back...
Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Tue, 10-26-2010 - 6:59pm
Oh and of u need to get it out, write it here...or in a journal or something...but don't u dare contact him.
Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Tue, 10-26-2010 - 7:17pm
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Registered: 07-17-2004
Tue, 10-26-2010 - 7:18pm
Hi Alice,

Your silence is strong, it speaks volumes more than getting the last word. It means your done with the bad and only will accept the good. Affairs are of a different nature than a friendship, I don't believe in unfinished business any longer to me it just means an excuse for my bad behaviour. You wrote what you felt here and I bet it felt good to get it out, now let it leave you:)
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Registered: 08-18-2008
Tue, 10-26-2010 - 7:27pm

You’ve written a similar thread in the past.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Tue, 10-26-2010 - 7:59pm
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Tue, 10-26-2010 - 8:00pm
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Registered: 07-24-2005
Tue, 10-26-2010 - 8:34pm

Kudos to you, girl, for coming here BEFORE doing something and saying something(s) stupid.


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Registered: 05-22-2010
Tue, 10-26-2010 - 9:51pm

You can not send the e-mail because it puts you back at square 1.

It puts you back in his court...waiting for his reply...fretting over what he said or did or didn't do. You stated that you did not hear from the friend for years.

Don't give him a place to stay inside your head. It is ok to be angry and to write about it, but write here...not to him.

Alice stopped being confused by wonderland when she became her own person and used her own voice and stopped thinking about what everyone else thinks.

Alice:

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