Why did he contact me???????

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-10-2004
Why did he contact me???????
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Wed, 01-12-2005 - 9:49pm

Why did he contact me exactly one day after I told him not to contact me ever again unless he has filed for D??????????

I went back to work today after telling my xMM to not contact me again until he files for D. I took a day off to grieve and now am back at work. It's hard not to fall into the same pattern of talking to him all day long at work, especially since I see him there every day. He sits right down the aisle from me. I feel really sad today. I didn't cry once yesterday, I was feeling strong, now I feel weak and sad and want to contact him.

I did send him a goodbye email yesterday, to tell him some things I wanted him to know and to tell him goodbye. He sent me two text messages thanking me.
He never sent me a goodbye letter though. He never did it last year at this exact same time either. We broke things off last year at this same time. Except it was him that did it last year. He never told me goodbye then, why should I expect him to do it now??? I don't think that he thinks this is goodbye. I broke things off this time. I have never taken the control before. I just felt like it was time.

So, he instant messages me today to say that he won't do it again but he just had to tell me something and then he teased me about something silly and that was it. I just responded with a very short reply and then logged out of instant messanger. It was so hard though. I want to talk to him so bad. But then again, why?????????? He could have said anything to me, he could have poured his heart out to me, instead he teases me about something. I am aching and dying inside and he just says something silly with no meaning what so ever.

Why is he doing this to me????? I need to heal from this experience. I need to grieve. I really want him back though, I am so sad. It's only been one day! How do you get thru this?? How do you let the dream go???

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2003
Wed, 01-12-2005 - 10:01pm

UNhappy

"I have never taken the control before"

Thats way, you have taken a little of your power back and he does not like it so he has decided to test your resolve.

"I need to heal from this experience. I need to grieve."

Yes you do and that is not going to happen quickly if at all as long as you have any contact with XOM\XMM what ever he is.

There is only one solution you have to put this person out of your life and mean it.

Free

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-20-2004
Thu, 01-13-2005 - 9:43am

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Unhappy,
You have finally taken control of the situation, but I hope you realize that you will only remain in control if you stick by everything you say. If you cave and let him back it gives him all the control again, no matter how many times you try to end it. I've always let him back and now he doesn't believe me when I say it's over. Hang on to that control. You'll be much happier in the long run!! Good Luck!

PAL