Why did I go back for more?!

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Registered: 04-08-2009
Why did I go back for more?!
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Fri, 09-10-2010 - 12:52pm

Hi ladies,

I posted my story a few days ago . . . basically in and out of an A with a MM for 2 years (I'm D), ended it and truly began to move on last spring, only to have him pop back up this summer when he and his W separated.

They were separated for 2 months when he decided to move back in and take care of "unfinished business" and I was left feeling like a complete fool for believing for even a second that we could have had a "real relationship." He spend a good month trying to convince me that his M was over, he was going to change, started seeing a therapist, bought new furniture and stuff for his own place, they worked out custody arrangements . . . and now he's back home.

I think I remember reading about a few people who went through this "going back for more" thing--was your experience anything like this? What was the 2nd "ending" like for you? I don't have as much pain, but I am so, so angry, at him and myself. I dunno what to do with it :(

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Registered: 02-25-2010
Fri, 09-10-2010 - 10:30pm

Hi Juliette09,



I cant remember if i responded on your first thread about "unfinished business", i think i made mention somewhere else. Because that was precisely the reason used by my xAP after a 5 day separation

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Registered: 04-11-2010
Fri, 09-10-2010 - 10:41pm

Hi Juliette



I agree- the waivering and back/forth cycle of this man will drive you nuts. You need to look after yourself. If ever he signs divorce papers, he will find you if he wants you.



Stay strong and look after yourself.



Iggy xxx



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