Why do I keep attracting married men
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Why do I keep attracting married men
| Fri, 03-04-2005 - 4:10pm |
I met this guy on campus that I have seen here and there before. I always supsected he had a "crush" on me. I was mildly interested. He went on to tell mehow sexy he always thought I was, asked if I had a boyfriend, etc. Then he said that he was married! WHY is this always happening to me. I would be flattered but I don't want to leave one MM to be with another I want a man of my own. ALL of my own!!

I wonder the same thing. I've seen this guy around, we were instantly attracted to each other. It's bad enough that we both smile and blush when we see each other. So he actually started talking to me 2-3 days ago. Today I find out that he's had a live-in gf for 2 years now. Why oh why do I pick them like this. I must send out a vibe for married or taken men to come my way. I know how you feel.
LilRocket
The solution to your respective problems is simple, your not telling these would be cheats to get lost, every woman gets hit on by men that prove by both cheating on there wife and in many cases hitting on married women that they have NO RESPECT for women and just keep doing it tell they get a taker, tell them to take a flying fuc$ at the moon and you won't have a problem for long.
Free
That's not a problem. You see if I pull away then I think he was just chatting, it doesn't mean he wants to sleep with me. I guess some conversation is ok, but only if it's general chit chat, things we would talk about if the significant other was there too. But once it starts to get too personal, that's when it's time to pull back.
Loneliness is getting the best of me lately, I long to have someone close but I don't want to make a big mistake again. I can't get a puppy b/c I have 2 dogs now. I do spend lots of time with them but it's not the same as we all know.
Thanks again
LilRocket
Rocket
It comes down to setting boundries that you will not move yourself and will not let any married man pass with out facing real time consequences for doing so, it's about respectng yourself and DEMANDING RESPECT from others.
There is not a single woman posting here who cannot do better then a CHEATER simple as that.
Free
Yes if your married but Rocket is single so she can as she pleases give asingle man the green light.
but I should not have said married man but MARRIED PERSON, it cuts both ways just ask Max.
Free
yep, :)
cut both ways, im cooking dinner, im gonna eat good tonite, i forgot to buy some salad :(
max
- btw, it seems like me and rocket have the same symptoms, only her are more severe i would say, just my observation from her posts and mine, but i guess everyone has to deal with it differently, i find that i am not alone in feeling like this, my few friends think im nuts and i brought this on to me, they have warned me b4 not go get involved with OW , even if i said that she was not married but of course the father of her child lives with them, they have warned me that i will only end up getting hurt and sure i did, no i think they backing off so i feel the pain and i wont repeat it anymore, for sure i wont have an affair
i will stay in this board even if this is over , i owe it all to the folks , helped me a lot
max
Max
What did your friends know about her that you did not know or did not want to know, has she got a ""history"" you were not aware of, you may not be the first maybe thats way her boss had that talk with her ??
Free
free,
nothing that i dont know, i actually told me friends her situation that she lives with the father of her daughter but they are not married, my friends went ballistic and warned me not to get involved her
with regards to my boss i think he heard me and OW talked one time so he kind of put two and two together
all of this is my fault i think, after the first time we were intimate, she said that that was it, a one nite stand, but of course i tried again and she gave in, after a month i went on vacation and after i came back she broke up with me, this was early on the affair, there was no contact at all other than email, it lasted about 3 weeks and she showed up in my door and it was back again and this cycle would continue every 1-2 months, here reason all the time is her daughter, i truly believe that she is doing it for her daughter, her "ex' actually knew OW hsa a bf but dont know my name but her "ex" knew but did not do anything , her ex still wanted to stay with them for the sake of the daughter, OW told me she ask ex to live but he will not, imnot sure this is true or not
oh well, now im up to the ying-yang in trouble, imn sure im gonna survive and i will for sure learn from this experience, i think right now im missing her attention/sex/whatever ...
i read some of the experience of the other poster, some are worst than mine with regards to the logistics of the affair but the emotions are the same and real for sure, all pain
ps, why is the "affair" board so silent, we used to be there and so active, i saw your post and some of the old timers are moving on also
max