Why is it so hard?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-21-2003
Why is it so hard?
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Mon, 04-19-2004 - 12:14pm
Why is it so hard to walk away from an affair? I have been married for 4 years, together for 8 with my H. I had an amazing 6 month affair (they're all amazing aren't they?) with a married friend of ours (it was my first A). We haven't had much contact for the last 8 months cause we try to avoid each other. But, whenever we see each other in public, we flirt with each other and want each other so bad. Given the opportunity, we would be back in bed in a flash. Why can't we let this go and get on with our lives?



iVillage Member
Registered: 09-05-2003
Mon, 04-19-2004 - 11:14pm
because it's not real -- it's a fantasy and an escape from what you perceive to be a routine and mundane life. My suggestion is that you make your real life as exciting and compelling as your fantasy life -- without the danger and guilt that make the sex unreal-ly hot -- and this flirtation will be put into perspective.

Take a hard look at your life and make it what you REALLY want it to be. It's hard work but worth it!!