Why shouldnt I tell his wife???
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Why shouldnt I tell his wife???
| Mon, 07-05-2004 - 1:26pm |
Someone please tell me why i shouldnt tell his wife. he is seeing me and other women. i dont want to hurt her i know this is not her fault and i was stupid for ever getting involved. he told me he loved me and i love him and i acutally believed him. i have just started no contact and i dont know how i am going to deal with it when he calls me or msgs me. i have decided not to discuss any of it with him so i dont have to give him any explanations on why, i know if i get in a discussion with him i will start talking to him daily again. i have tried to have NC twice before and failed. any advice would be helpful.

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If you do your going to involve yourself in there life deeper then you are already.
If your married he can do the same.
Better to make the threat as suggested by the other poster to force him to back off, if that does not take you can always follow through if you really have to.
I would suggest changing you IM account name , remove him from your buddy list, block his e-mail or close the accounts he knows about, also as the other poster suggested change any phone numbers he knows about go unlisted on them and be carefull that the people that you give them to understand that they are not to share your unlisted numbers with anyone at all including"MALE FRIENDS".
Never forget the JERK was just using you.
Read lots of post here and post often yourself.
Good luck.
Free
Now if you are trying to break contact with him and he insists on trying to reach you can threaten to tell his W. Now he has a choice. Back off or you follow through.
Don't know if I was any help or not, sorry for rambling. Thanks
RJH
As for going NC, well, just having started NC myself last week, my advice would be to ignore any calls/e-mails/text messages that he may use to try to get in touch with you. Erase his # and e-mail addresses from your cell phone and address books. Keep yourself as busy as possible. And when you feel a moment of weakness, or when he tries to get back together, come here for support. I couldn't have made it 1 day without the support from this board. We are here for you!
((hugs))
Circe
TTBR, if you really want to tell his wife, you will no matter what anyone here has to say. It would be your revenge, your chance to hurt her as he's hurt you.
I would never tell GB's wife. I had plenty of opportunity and never took advantage of the opportunity or of her. Not even when she came to me with suspicions that he was cheating on her with a coworker of mine. I assured her that he was not cheating on her with the person she was asking about. How did I know? The gal was a lesbian so that was an easy call.
Did I volunteer that I was the woman he was seeing? No. Why not? Because I felt that she didn't deserve to hear it from me. She deserved to hear it from him, which eventually she did in a
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