Why We Are Out of Their Leagues.....

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Why We Are Out of Their Leagues.....
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Tue, 06-08-2010 - 11:42pm

Part of my coping

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Wed, 06-09-2010 - 5:20am

Dear Mom,

In case not too many gals are around to post to this thread, I have copied the link to one of our longest threads EVER on EAS. Occasionally it is bumped up, but I don't want to take anything away from yours. Have a read, and I promise that you are going to get a good laugh out of it.

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlending&msg=21533.195&ctx=128

((Hugs))

   ~Iddy~ 


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Wed, 06-09-2010 - 10:42am
That thread is one of the funniest things I have ever read!!
Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
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Registered: 04-15-2010
Wed, 06-09-2010 - 10:45am

Iddy:

Without a doubt, that is my favorite thread on this board. It makes me laugh out loud, shake my head in disbelief and generally, just feel so darn good to find humor within the horror!

TU.

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
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Registered: 05-25-2010
Wed, 06-09-2010 - 12:50pm

Oooo....I'll play!

1. He is really not that intelligent.

2. He becomes religious ONLY when he is feeling guilty about something. Then, he forgets all about it until he "sins" again.

3. The one time we had sex, it was not all he talked it up to be. Apparently what I remember being good sex when I was 16 is quite different from what I know now! No wonder his wife doesn't like having sex with him!!!!

4. He has ugly feet.

5. He says he goes to the Dentist, yet his teeth are still yellow and a couple of the teeth have this stuff stuck in between them. I was able to look past that as the stuff was not in the front teeth. Ugh, gross!

6. He is actually pretty boring.

7. He has no desire to learn about anything other than what he knows.

8. He is actually a wuss.

9. He does not know how to have a conversation like an adult. Instead, he throws a temper tantrum and acts like a child.

10. He does not know me at all. He would take things out of context ALL the time because he did not understand how I was saying something (we emailed a lot). That just shows me he had no understanding of me as a person.

11. He claims to dress well, yet he looks like he just stepped out of 1995. Um, turtle necks tucked into you light colored jeans and running shoes are not stylish! Adding a black belt does NOT help!

12. Trying to have a conversation with him was like pulling teeth. He says he does not like to talk about things he does not know. That is also half of the reason he never would write me back. He did not know what to say, because he does not talk about things that he does not know!

13. My son is bilingual, as my husband is from South America. ExAP said to me "my children will ONLY speak English in my house...this is America!". That is one of the most ignorant things I have ever heard him say. He has the opportunity to teach them Italian and Spanish, but because he is "patriotic", he will not do so. I feel bad for his kids. Depriving a child of knowledge is very sad to me.

14. I learned that he is really no different from when I was 16.

15. I am out of his league because I am intelligent, pretty, kind, loving, open minded and everything that he is not. For all the times he tried to end the A, he would always come back. I am the one with the strength too...I am the one who ended it and will keep NC.

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Registered: 10-21-2009
Wed, 06-09-2010 - 5:51pm

He was lying just like he was breathing. I guess when you cheat it becomes a second nature - to hide EVERYTHING. His daughter graduated from the high school, and I asked what he's got her for a present. He said "Nothing". I started to laugh - his only daughter graduated, and he got her no present, how that could be? Well, he got her a laptop - but lied out of habit, as always. Or maybe he was afraid I'll ask for one too? :)

**Bloodied but unbowed**
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Registered: 05-05-2010
Wed, 06-09-2010 - 6:26pm

I really need this today:

1. he has the hairiest back I've ever seen in my life.
2. he has a soft spot for dogs and cats. he lets them destroy the house. his poor cat had 3 litters of kittens in two years because he was too cheap to get her spayed.
3. he has ruined his credit and doesn't even care
4. he is 42 years old and has nothing to show for his life
5. he is lazy
6. he is obsessed with sports - any and all sports - not playing them, but watching them on TV
7. he is competitive, but he's a sore loser
8. anything you think you know, he knows more than you. anything you can do, he can (and has done) better.
9. he thinks he is God's gift to women, that he is irresistible, and it shows in his actions
10. he is not personable or outgoing, unless of course, you want to talk about him
11. he is a self-admitted great liar
12. the only friends he has are the ones who are doing something for him at this point in his life. he has no long-lasting friendships
13. he is needy - not emotionally - but in every other way

Gosh I could sit here for hours and think up more stuff, but he's been on my mind a little too much the last few days. This has helped a little though, thanks MWS

-Angel

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Wed, 06-09-2010 - 6:28pm
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Wed, 06-09-2010 - 8:39pm

Just Me, you and I must have had the same xap! Holy Crap!

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Registered: 05-22-2010
Wed, 06-09-2010 - 10:55pm

itsjustme posted


15. I am out of his league because I am intelligent, pretty, kind, loving, open minded and everything that he is not. For all the times he tried to end the A, he would always come back. I am the one with the strength too...I am the one who ended it and will keep NC.


I can probably list things about my xAP,

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Registered: 05-10-2010
Thu, 06-10-2010 - 3:58am